Hi. I really need some serious advice. I have never told anyone about this but, when I was 10, I am 18 now, my father molested me, and he is abusive to me and my Mother. And I keep having these recurring nightmares that he comes into my room and beats me to death, I usually wake up having panic attacks. My b/f has said he will get me a place to live but his mother really doesn't like me and he can't do anything without her permission. I have a few thousand dollars in savings. Should I get my own place?
2006-11-14 02:19:45 · 12 answers · asked by Portia 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Portia - Yes, you should get another place to live as soon as possible, with or without your boyfriend.
One thing you must realize though, moving to your own place is not going to stop the nightmares. Those thoughts of what happened are in your head, not in the place you live. They are going to follow you around until you talk them out with someone trained to deal with these kind of situations.
2006-11-14 02:32:16 · answer #1 · answered by Dust in the Wind 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a family member that you can live with. I wouldn't suggest living with your b/f as such a young age (personal expertise). I would get in contact with a counseler and start some type of therepy. It will contiue to bother you until you seek the correct therepy to learn to cope. Obvisiouly you will never get over it but learning to cope with something that was not your fault will help you to get through this stage. Also, I would suggest calling the police or something the next time this instance occurs, what bewilders me is that your mother is allowing this to continue possibly knowing some of the things that have happened. Does your mother know that he molested you? Maybe you need to tell her this to get him out. But, until she does that yes you need to get out of there. Don't let him threaten you, put a restraining order against him. I wish you all the luck and I will pray for you! Stay strong and get the F out of there!
2006-11-14 02:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by pattiof 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, take your money nd get your own place t live..
get away from the hell you have been put through..
make sure you get a job as soon as you can too..who cares if it is fast food employment..it is a paycheck and that is the main thing you will need right now..
I wish you the best of luck and I went through a similiar situation many years ago..it seems hard but it will work out and will only be rough for a small period of time...
2006-11-14 02:24:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What about your mom? Get some councilling and find a place to live. Go to college and help others that have gone through the same thing.
Good Luck
2006-11-14 02:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that this is happening to you! Yes, I think it would be a good idea for you to get a place of your own. Also, when you get the chance, try to find a good therapist. You've got a lot of stuff you need to work through. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-11-14 02:40:55 · answer #5 · answered by tangerine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, for your own sanity, I would say you need to get out of there. You need to speak to someone too about what happened with your father, even just a good friend or a close family member. Don't hold it inside .. it's not good.
http://www.angelic1healing.com
2006-11-14 02:31:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would most definatly get your own place and take your mom with you, also go to the police there are laws against abuse! you need to get out of their fast before your nightmare becomes a reality
2006-11-14 04:24:31 · answer #7 · answered by VEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still live with him?
Both of you need to go to the police and report him asap.
Why should any of you move? Let them take HIM AWAY from you.
He should be made to pay for what he did instead of making you go through further hardship and using your saved money
2006-11-14 02:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by Fluffy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you still have your mom, you have to sit and talk with your mom about what was done to you by your dad. in that way, you can readily get her emotion on this. if she is on your side (which i pray she will) encourage her that the two of you leave your dad
as soon as possible because if you dont, the thing he did to you might be repeated and the more it will ruin your life. one incident is enough for you to feel afraid and devastated. start proving your worth. if your mom does not want to leave your dad, do it on your own but you have to take extra care of yourself. please dont give up on life. it is still beautiful. with the help of THE LORD, you can survive and be at peace with yourself.
2006-11-14 02:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a very good blog, a beginner’s guide to abnormal psychology.
Short, clear and simple; and you can even post your question and contact the author regarding particular subject you are interested in
http://sensitive-psychoworld.blogspot.com/
2006-11-14 02:41:21 · answer #10 · answered by LIz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋