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as much as i love christmas i always feel sad splitting them and not being all together. just wondering if anyone else ever felt that way

2006-11-14 02:11:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Family

thank you everyone. you've made me feel better.

2006-11-14 06:40:40 · update #1

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Hey, it's sad sometimes but kids learn that you do what you gotta do. Life is sad and you can't shelter them from everything, much as you may want to.

2006-11-14 02:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by mr.threethirtyfive 4 · 0 0

My parents divorced when I was 6 years old. Christmas was always wonderful. I usually spent Xmas eve with my mom and went over to my dad's on Xmas morning. Eventually they both remarried and had more children - and I was ALWAYS made to feel welcome at both places. I lived with my mom, and when I was 14 we moved a state away (about a 5 hour drive). That was hard - but I'd switch every-other-year to spend the actual holiday, and then we'd have a "special" re-Xmas with the parent/family some other time over the holiday break. One perk is double presents! Remember that the holidays are what YOU make them - family is nice and important, but should never be the total basis for your happiness.

2006-11-14 02:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by Jeniphish 2 · 0 0

Please read this ok? Sure that is a natural feeling. You love both of them and want both of them at the same time. But, they are not happy when they are together so just be happy that they are happy now and that you are lucky to still have two parents that love their child. Enjoy them and make the best of the situation ,ok . Happy Thanksgiving and Merry Christmas! I never had a dad around for the holidays but when he was around he was a jerk and I loved him soooooo much but he made me feel very uncomfortable. He remarried and had four more children (five with my mom and I was the baby and only girl) and paid more attention to them then us. He died less then a year ago and no one told me ; ( How awful is that. Ohhhh sooooo painful. It still makes me want to cry when I talk about it, that is why I do not, except for right now. My cousin called and slowly told me that she saw my dad's picture in the obituaries!! The rest of it just sucked. So be happy !! my friend. Bye for now...

2006-11-14 02:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by Dewy 2 · 0 0

I'm an adult now, but my parents split when I was really little and I have never seen my dad on Christmas Day. Holidays made me sad. Still do for a lot of reasons.

2006-11-14 02:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by Beth T 5 · 1 0

i learned way back in 1989...2 years after my parents split, that my father wanted nothing to do with me, so i just cut him out of the equation....i've become accustomed to not having a father...after almost 19 years of him being a non factor in my life i've figured out its probably better without the abusive alcoholic in my life (at least its that way for me)....but yes a lot of kids from divorced parents feel sad and depressed during the holidays...and for the same reasons you've highlighted...as hard as it is, ya just gotta put on one of those fake smiles and carry on as painful as it is or everyone will accuse you of ruining the holidays for everyone

2006-11-14 03:01:30 · answer #5 · answered by do_sctc145 3 · 0 0

I definitely do. Every holiday I have to choose who I'm gonna stay with. I live with my mom year-round and my dad lives in Washington. I love the snow, but I love my family down here. All of my family up there is moving back to Texas. I usually choose my dad because I never see him, but I feel like on Christmas I'm missing something. I mean, my mom is down here, now by herself (well not really, she has my grandma), and I get really sad. When my dad was around things were sooo much better! We would be sooo happy...

Luv,
Kira.in.pink@sbcglobal.net (Dont be afraid to email me!)

2006-11-14 02:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by Kira S 1 · 0 0

My kids wanted us all to be together no matter what. They always blamed me for the breakup. Expected more out of me, especially gifts. I budgeted all year for their Xmas, it was hard. they didn't care if they got anything from their father, didn't expect it.They had very nice Xmases but always had comments about it being MY fault he wasn't there.Enjoy what you have and the time you have with each parent.

2006-11-14 02:23:23 · answer #7 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 0 0

a little but in my family i think it's for the best because it would be worl war 3 at my house if my folks just decided to do a reunion tour for the holidays

holidays and my little sisters b'day and sports functions are always full of anguish and bitterness you just have to see past it to the part that you're supposed to enjoy
it's hard but it's life nobody said it was gonna be easy

2006-11-14 02:24:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

No. Never celebrated Xmas when I was younger.

2006-11-14 02:12:21 · answer #9 · answered by jessigirl00781 5 · 0 0

kids are cruel to my kids and rub it in,my kids tell ppl dont need a dad we got our mommyshe is better

2006-11-14 02:16:00 · answer #10 · answered by dee30 2 · 0 0

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