Ok I need help majorly my "boyfriend" mike is from florida, I am from North Carolina. WE both lived in Ny a couple of months ago, he moved then I moved. Ok well he is a relationship, with Katie. Katie's mom owns Mike's truck *he is making payments to Katie's mom* He is paying for Katie's college, he doesn't want to leave right now because he put alot of money into her. But I really like him, and he really likes me. He tells me how much he misses me, and he is gonna be moving up to North Carolina next year. Is there anyway I can tell him I will wait for him, or tell him that I want to date him? (is this a confusing question lol) I feel really stupid. I think about him everyday but I dont want to act like Im obssed with him, I just want to tell him that I want to date him when he moves to N.C PLEASE HELP ME!! (and please dont critize me lol)
2006-11-14 01:46:52 · 9 answers · asked by ~*Little Shorty Girl*~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should just leave him be for a while. Tell him that he seems to be going through some things and he needs to work them out first. Let him know that you would like to date but don't seem obsessed. Tell him to call you when he makes it down to N.C. But in the meantime, don't wait around for him. Go out and have fun. I'm pretty sure him and that Katie chick are having fun in Florida.
and F.Y.I. Why would you want to be with someone who arlready has someone? I don't even know you and yet I know you can do better.
2006-11-14 02:03:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to critize because i can be worng, but from experience its not going to work. because if he was to leave her for you, in your mind you will always think he is cheating on you or he is back talking to her which in some cases those thoughts turn out to be right.
Men in these types of situations find it convienant and know that they can have their cake and eat it to. But if in your heart you are ready for all the suprises this is going to bring then you go for it. I will tell you to follow your heart. maybe all men are not the same. But the majority will do you no good if they have a woman they are taking care of and really love and have you on the side. Trust me. I dated this guy for at least 2yrs b4 i woke up and finally realized that he was not going to leave his girl for me. True enough he was there for me and he showed me that he cared alot about me but there was something that she had that I didn't and that was the fact that they have been together for so long and they invested so much time and money in that relationship. See they may not be happy in their current situation, and go out and look for something new. Yeah they find it and fall for that person, but they are too scared to take the risk of leaving what they have, because they are scared of what type of mistake they are going to make.
But you follow your heart and if you feel you want to wait for him and see what happens then you do that, but be careful this can all back fire on you and you may get hurt in the end. But dont wait too long for him, his knows that you are avaiable and you are willing to wait for him so he can make you wait for a long time. and you can find you someone else. Just be strong and let him know eactly how you feel and that you dont want to be the one hurting in the end. Tell him you can hold on but not forever, you have a life to live he is living his life so you can live yours.
2006-11-14 02:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by Kiwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO CRITIZING BUT WHAT MAKES U THINK HE WON'T DO THAT TO U WHEN YOU GUYS DO OFFICALLY START DATING? HE'S SUPPOSEDLY DATING KATIE BUT MESSING AND EMOTIONALLY BE CONNECTING TO YOU. HOW DO U KNOW WHEN IT'S U AND HIM HE WON'T BE TALKING TO OR CONNECTING WITH SOMEONE ELSE? SURE U CAN TELL HIM THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO DATE HIM WHEN HE'S DONE WITH KATIE AND THAT WHEN HE MOVES TO N.C THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE EXCLUSIVE WITH HIM IF HE LIKES U LIKE HE SAYS HE DOES THERE WILL BE NO PROBLEM...GOOD LUCK WITH THAT MESS
2006-11-14 01:50:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to be with a man who would cheat on his current girlfriend?
He has too many ties to this girl and her family. He's not going to leave her for you. He just wants an affair.
2006-11-14 01:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is going to move to be with you, then just be patient and wait, if he puts the move off, for any reason at all, then you have to move on. i hope all is well in NC cause it is freezing cold in NY
2006-11-14 01:53:07 · answer #5 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move along. You're wasting your time. If/when he moves to N.C., deal with him then if you're not taken. But don't put your life on hold. He's not putting his on hold for you.
2006-11-14 01:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by 11:11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you'll wait for him and tell him once he moves to NC that you want to date him. Just tell him then see what he says
2006-11-14 01:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by shelby p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was you i would tel him that when he moves down there to look you upp becasue you really would like to hook up sometime.
2006-11-14 01:50:17 · answer #8 · answered by nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thn wht is the problem dear speak to him. all the best.
2006-11-14 01:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by miss_amal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋