Why is it so hard to put trust in most people these days?

Question

Here's a perfect example:
A couple months ago, i met this girl who seemed pretty kool or whatever. She is 7 years older than me, but that wasnt a problem. I never wanted a relationship with her. just friendship.
Well anyways, we talked all the time and she used to always talk about how men were dogs and what not. she also promised to help me if i needed anything while saving up money for college. i never asked her, but it was still nice of her to help when she did.
well all of a sudden about 3 weeks ago she met a boyfriend and has not kept in touch with me since. nothing wrong with having a guy, but it just irritates me how some women seem to forget about everyone when they get a man. im sure there are some of you on here that have probably done the same thing. But ever since that ive decided to never put trust in most women from now on.
i just thought that she would at least remember the promise she gave me to assist me if i needed anything when in college.

i should also add that i told her things about me that i havent told many people. about how my father stole from us to buy drugs, my mother who is on methadone, and a lot of other stuff.

Answer 1

It is not any more difficult than it has ever been. You must be very careful who one puts their trust in. You only knew her for a few months, and it appears she was looking for a boyfriend, and that was her idea with you. Don't be ashamed of what you told her, who cares that is your life. Don't be ashamed of what your parents did not did not do that was right or wrong. Everyone has a past. Just keep doing what your doing to be the best you can be. Learn from this and keep going forward, it is not the end of your life, you are probably better off without her in your life anyway. If she is 7 years older than you she should be more mature in handling a relationship, however, from what you are saying you appear more mature. So, be grateful things happened the way they did. God did you a favor and showed you her true colors. God bless*

Answer 2

People in general are not perfect and they can let people down, seems like you guys weren't official or anything so you just might be a little jealous, and think that you are losing a friend to someone else, and now all her time will be into him, which happens when people get into a relationship. I hear you on that part, when some of my male and female friends get into a relationship everyone is Ghost around them until things start to fall apart. As far as trusting people, you cannot use her, as a judgment for all the females that you will come across in your life.

Answer 3

First off, remember that women don't like to keep close communication with guy-friends once they start a relationship. If the bf finds out, it could get hairy very quickly. You can always put your trust into women, as they are 100% more sensitive than most guys. And if you want to talk to her about your seperation, organize a lunch meeting once a week or month, so you can catch up on things on a regular basis.

Good luck!

Answer 4

i find it very difficult to trust people nowadays too after being lied to and decieved by 2 people that i loved and considered to be real friends...as far as ur friend and her new man, u do have to realize that when a relationship is new, the couple usually puts all their free time and energy into the relationship which doesnt leave much time for friends...ive experienced that and to some degree i would expect my friends to understand that i want to spend time with my new man...in ur case u also have to realize that she was older and probably wanted a relationship which u said u didnt want with her..not to mention how many men want their girlfriends hanging around other guys...even if ur are just friends....a lot to think about...

Answer 5

Hey,

Trust is probably one of the most important things a person can have the pleasure of sharing with someone close to them! However, I had a friend who i knew for about a year and a half. I thought i could trust her, she didnt get a boyfriend, But she betrayed my trust! I dont just trust anyone, As its a big thing in one life to put your trust into someone! It takes alot. But it proved to me that no matter how well you know a person, You can not trust them with everything! Do not stop trusting people, Just think about everything before you do!

Answer 6

I have the same problem trying to trust people. As far as this one lady goes, she probably didn't do it to spite you. It's just that boyfriends don't like their girlfriends spending time with male friends. I did the same thing to my guy friends, but I didn't want to. It's just that men don't like their girls hanging out or spending time on the phone with other guys.

Answer 7

well first of all im sorry to hear that but trust is something many people dont even have in themselves its better if u just let her learn her lesson i mean call her let her knoe that if she needs ne thing that your there for her and yea gurls do forget about there firends wen it comes to a new man but is it not true dat some guys forget about themselves wen they have someone new? i mean some people just dont have the common sense to slow down and remember about the people who really do care about them...well go0d luck and email me if u need to talk

Answer 8

trust is hard and maybe she is just a bit to busy for you at the moment but in the mentime go out and try to forget her.
Plus I like your pic.

Answer 9

I guess when people fall in love, they tend to concentrate on their lover, and forgetting a bit about their friends. It happens.

Answer 10

do trust no one baby stay on your grind and do what you do for yourself put you first and neva let a hoe take dat!!! Much love n best wishes boo!!
~One Love~