2006-11-14 01:29:37 · 28 answers · asked by frostbitten 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
People - I do tell them I love them all the same, and they are all my favourites. I just think maybe they would all like to think they are THE favourite, and If they all get together and find out they are all my favourites, whats the problem with that? I dont say it when the others are around, either.
2006-11-14 01:46:38 · update #1
I am 74 and I have told this to my children all their lives. Doing it now with the granbdkids too. They all laugh, they are used to it. And you know what? Each one of them secretly thinks that they are the favorite. I could not pick a favorite if you gave me a million dollars.
2006-11-14 01:37:46 · answer #1 · answered by antiekmama 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a dangerous thing you are doing. You can endeavor to explain to each why each individual child is your favorite but then each child will wonder (Eventually) how they failed in this particular area. Example: You tell one child he is your favorite because he helps you in the kitchen after dinner. Well then the other children begin helping in the kitchen and the inevitable question arises who is your favorite in the kitchen now? It is better to tell them they are all gifts from God (If you believe in God) and that they are all so special to you that you cannot put one above the other. In essence "I love you all the same no matter what." Children only wish to please YOU and YOU only. To rank one above the other in any subject or field is to begin a cycle of dissension or competitiveness within the rest. being competitive is fine as long as they realize someone has to lose and no child wants to be a loser when its their parents love they are dealing with. Good luck to you.
2006-11-14 01:40:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not as long as you tell them that all your children are your favourites. As long as all the children know that you love them equally then that's fine.
2006-11-14 01:34:55 · answer #3 · answered by patsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a grandmother and I wrote in my journal (which all will see when I die) a page for each grandchild titled "Why I Love you the Best" I tell them of my feelings when their Mom's were pregnant and when they were born, etc. I tell them they are special like no other child to me because of their being unique. I like the idea of telling each one I love you the best.
2006-11-14 01:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by diturtlelady2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a boy and a girl, and I tell my son that he is my favourite boy in the world and my daughter that she is my favourite girl in the world
2006-11-15 00:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly do you mean by that. Obviously you shouldn't have favorites, and even if you do, you shouldn't really let your kids know which one is the favorite. I have one girl and one boy and sometimes I have told them "your my favorite girl" or "your my favorite boy". They always just laugh and say that's because I'm the only girl/boy. If you want to express that to your kids, you might say "your my favorite 8 year old" or something like that. But to tell them each they are your favorite meaning you like them better than their siblings is wrong.
2006-11-14 02:26:40 · answer #6 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You cannot say any of them are more favourite than any other. They will feel good but all the others will feel bad and be teased about it for..ever.
2006-11-14 01:34:20 · answer #7 · answered by Aaron 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes!! That is wrong is so many ways. each of them think you like them better. its only gonna take one of them to tell the other that he/she is the favorite and then what? You should stop this now. you are pitting your children against one another.
2006-11-14 01:32:28 · answer #8 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Basically yes it is - it could cause problems between your children. Better to tell them that you love them all equally x
2006-11-14 01:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by starlet108 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my littl boys are called luke and callum and i tell luke that he's my favourite luke in the world and i tell cal that he's my favourite callum in the world but i'd never favour them over each other!!!
haha i have just read blue_6670 answer ...great minds eh?!
2006-11-15 07:07:33 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋