i guess its healthy to have a bit of space but i feel like i want my boyf to call me everyday? is it normal that some guys just dont want to? i cant help thinking that he might not be that into me? hes lovely when we are together and i have no reasons to doubt or not trust him. am i jsut being a princess? also hes often on msn but doesnt send me a message. he does call me but will easily leave it a day or two. we are jsut starting to get serious in our relationship.
2006-11-14 01:20:08 · 15 answers · asked by sillybilly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, if he is busy, I would understand why he would not call everyday. And this is healthy that he has other interests other than calling you every day and checking on you. You should find a hobby or something and stop worrying about this. This is such a trivial matter. I really do not understand the issue at all. You are going to scare him away being so needy of attention. Good luck and God bless*
2006-11-14 01:24:47 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, back when I first got with my guy, in a serious relationship ( we called it going out ) his parents phone number was long distance from my parets phone..
So he would call me every night on the weekends ( if we were not together ) or any time he got into the closest town , with a local payphone to my house, durng the week before he went to work or after work..
sometimes he did not call every day, but never seemed to go more than 2 days without calling..and I never forced him to call...
I would occasionally leave him messages when he was at work to let him know I was thinking about him..
it has been 14 years, and we are still together ( married for 10, almost 11 of those years )
we did not have internet and instant messaging back then, it seemed to make it simple too...
oh how times have dramaticly changed in such a short period..
2006-11-14 09:26:42 · answer #2 · answered by The Chesire Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely leave the "calling" to the guy in new relationships. That is the biggest way to get a guy scared and run is the feeling he has to check in on u everyday. Some guys like talking on the phone, but it's rare. Wait til he calls u and if at the end he says give me a call tomorrow, then do so, otherwise wait for his. With guys u have to take it very slow and allow them to feel no pressure. They like the thrill of the chase, but they don't like to be the "hunted" one. At least when "he" calls u then u know he wants to talk to u. Most guys are scared of total commitment at first, so take it slow and it will all come together in time.
2006-11-14 09:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to speak everyday and especially not all the time on msn chat or anything.
u are basing ur insecurities on how often url chat. thats not good, although a lot of people do that, guys and girls.
u will end up fighting with him about how often url chat even though thats not necessarily the problem. the problem is that u are feeling like he may leave you and doesnt like u. and trust me he IS NOT going to leave u :)
just have more faith in him and he will love u for that freedom and trust.
2006-11-14 09:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Initially, a guy or girl will call their partner virtually everyday because they are still in the ''honeymoon'' phase of their relationship. It could be from 3 calls per day to 2 calls per week or even less. It doesn't mean that the guy isn't into you.
Give him a bit of space and see what happens......
2006-11-14 09:36:42 · answer #5 · answered by Banana Pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk every day, unless he's unable to call you. Especially if you guys are starting to get serious, communication is key. Even if it's brief, just to touch base and see how each others day went. I feel that if was really into you he would want to talk to you each day. He would be considerate of you wanting to talk everyday.
2006-11-14 09:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by miss bell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one call/text/im a day is NOT asking to much-i like my space to go out and all same as rest-but nothing should be more important than your other, and excuse i am busy or my job don't cut it. Be a princess-you deserve it, they don't wanna call or come see you-there loss. Lots of others that will.
2006-11-14 09:36:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little space is healty for a relationship that have just started, don't go jumping to conclusion, space can build trust, if you call every five min. asking what you doing most likely he doesn't trusr you, take it for a good thing
2006-11-14 09:55:58 · answer #8 · answered by babycakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope it's not just sex for him... Just be careful. What kind of work does he have, is he very busy? That’s a factor to look at.
Hope it's not just sex for him... Just be careful. What kind of work does he have, is he very busy? That’s a factor to look at. But when somebody is really in to you, you’ll hear from them everyday. Maybe his trying to take a step at a time… Talk to him about it and maybe its to early for you to worry about this kind of stuff, maybe your emotions are running away with you… Good luck.
2006-11-14 09:36:23 · answer #9 · answered by confussie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally, tht's what my boyfriend use to do to me. after a while he drifted off and then he dumped me!!!!!! on the other hand, my best friend and her guy have space but they are really close and it' s sweet. but speaking everyday is a must, i don't mean to scare ya but... talk to him about it!! honesty is important. he's got the answer, not someone on yahoo...!good luck
2006-11-14 09:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by Phoebe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋