What is my problem if girls I don't know find me attractive and fall for me, but not girls I know in reallife?

Question

Well, it is hard for me to approach someone and be really lively and friendly with them unless they initiate something first. Also, I can get confrontational because I am very religious and conservative. I don't know if this is something that would make girls in other areas of the country more drawn to me than here, and it's not my fault, or maybe I've just grown too isolated from meeting someone potentially awesome.

Answer 1

ur a S*H*I*T*head

Answer 2

I've lived a life of that too. Drives me nuts. But that's women for you!

What I've learned about myself is that all too often I let women do the choosing (so to speak) and I just went with the flow.

When they do the choosing they really don't know what the hell they want and after they find it they aren't very interested and end up wanting me to change.

They try changing me by complaining I'm too happy, too confident, too open and way too nice or too easy to talk to.

That makes them feel insecure and to help them 'feel better', I avoid extending my charm, kindness or easy-going ness. Sometimes they start buying me clothes and sooner than later the clothes are dressed down instead of fancy and appealing (which really suits my character.)

It always made me unhappy and put me into the position you're wondering about.

It's not your problem when women find you attractive (for all their wrong reasons.) But it is your problem if you don't enjoy life being as happy as you'd like to be without someone else interfering with your outlook on life.

My take is for you to do the choosing and to do a better job at it. I'm going on 44 and still learning how to do a better job at choosing the right woman.

Answer 3

You may be handsome and charming in the outside world, but once ladies get to know you, they don't like your personality. You need to figure out what it is about you that they don't like when they get to know you better. Are you selfish, too needy, or lazy? Nobody can know what it is, except those who really know you. So, if I were you, I'd ask someone close to you to give you some hints. They may be afraid to tell you that you, say, are selfish or cheap (just examples), so you have to tell them you won't hold it against them for being honest because you want to know so you can make some changes. Otherwise, it's always going to be the same. (Don't ask you sister or your mother, though. They will be prejudiced. Ask a female cousin or school chum.)

Answer 4

im going to assume that your talking about girls on the internet.
if you can be charming on the net you can be charming in real life too you just have to remember one thing RELAX. nobody wants to talk to some slobbering idiot take your time when you approach a girl and take your time find out some things about her (and then remember those things for the next time you meet) and be sure to tell her a thing or 2 about yourself but most importantly relax

Answer 5

Maybe the ones in real life know the real you and that's what they don't like. Maybe a personality trait?

Answer 6

are you confident....maybe you set off a vibe that your not....girls are turned off by that....but theres a differnce in being cofindent and cocky

Answer 7

well lots of reasons...
maybe ur a nice guy...they come last...
maybe ur nice when someone dunno u...coz ur only physically attractive...u need to b more specific...and describe urself a bit more in order i can answer this question in more detail....

Answer 8

i dont find you attractive at all