Hello, I recently got a public service license. I wanted to get a part time job driving a taxi or limousine. After completeing my physical, I ran in to a guy that I met in the Navy. We didn't serve together, but were discharged the same week and happen to be from the same town. Over the past ten years or so we have run in to each other and always greeted each other warmly, but it is not as if we are close friends or anything like that.
Anyway, this guys just started a taxi company and was eager to have me come work for him! I all but signed up on the spot, but it takes a few weeks to get approved for the license.
While I was waiting to be approved, I found out that this guys mother had disrespected my mother and sister. My mother and sister are in Real Estate together and his Mother is in another office. They advised me not to work for him and I followed there advice and went with another company.
But I still see him around. What should I say to him? I feel so mean!
2006-11-14 01:13:00 · 11 answers · asked by Think.for.your.self 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Unless he brings it up, don't say anything. Just be cordial as usual
2006-11-14 01:18:59 · answer #1 · answered by SCORPIO 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's a shame that you turned down an opportunity based upon others point of view. All people have the right not be judged until they've crossed you personally. Try to meet someone on an equal footing despite what you've heard, I've made some of my best friends that way. He's not responsible for the actions of his mother, just as you're not responsible for the actions of your family. You may have missed out on a great opportunity, this man has done nothing to yourself or your family, it's his mother that has.
2006-11-14 09:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by thebattwoman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off friend this guy can't controll what someone esle has done so please don't treat him strangly cause he is only responsible for his own actions / but as for the job offer just tell him while you were waiting for you license to come through that you got a job offer with more money or benifettes this way the will not be affended or hurt and you can still be friends with him
2006-11-14 09:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by Sheila S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would bury my head in the sand and ignore everything and pretend nothing has happened. But that is because I have no back bone. But the best way is most likely to apologize to him, let him know that you had a different offer before his and should not of accepted his. Good luck.
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2006-11-14 10:13:07 · answer #4 · answered by Bacchus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're tarring him with the same brush as his mother. Did he disrespect your mom and sister? If not, you can't hold him accountable for her lack of respect. Did you get his mom's side? No offense to your mom, but not right to judge on only one side of the argument.
Not good for you to welsh on a job that you'd accepted. Perhaps you left him in a bad spot by ditching on him.
Do you do everything that your mom and sister tell you to do?
2006-11-14 09:28:18 · answer #5 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the advise to just proceed with cautious politeness, and try to stay neutral. Sure, you want to remain loyal to your mother and sister, but his mother is an adult, and he is surely not responsible for her behavior. And in that same vein, your mom and sis are adults too, and shouldn't be holding a man responsible to his mother's behavior, even though it is rude.
2006-11-14 09:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep being warm and friendly to him, if you choose. I admire you for taking your Mother's advice and not working for him. Don't bring the topic up unless he does, then tell the truth. It will "clear your mind" and you can move on. Remember, the conflict involved your mother, your sister, and his mother...I don't see either one of you in that equation, do you?
2006-11-14 09:20:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like HE can't go without bringing up your mother and his mother, you shouldn't even talk to him. Matters of the heart should stay between the parties, with no referees.
2006-11-14 09:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by thewordofgodisjesus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i don't know why you didn't take a job because of some-thing his relatives did.....i could understand if HE had been the one talkin about your mom, but HE didn't do anything....
but i guess that's not what you're asking...
as for what to say to him...i'd just greet him warmly like you always did...and if he asks why you didn't take the job with him then you can simply say it was personal reasons
2006-11-14 09:58:30 · answer #9 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell his he is great guy, sorry could not work for you, my mom is sesitive and I love and respect my mom, and she didn't feel comfy. No hard feelings
2006-11-14 10:18:03 · answer #10 · answered by entelectual h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋