basketball team. This is in 5th grade and this team was put together by the high school coach - sort of a farm team to prepare them for the high school team. Daughter and most friends make the team. One girl who didn't make the team, with encouragement from her parents, calls one of the coaches and asks to be on the team anyway. After several weeks of practice and games one coach says "okay, come to practices and games". When the girl doesn't get any playing time parents complain. I say they never should have asked to be on the team in the first place - the girl didn't make the cut - that's life. What do you think, try to be on the team or chalk it up to life?
2006-11-14 01:03:19 · 7 answers · asked by porkchop 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Did you read my question? It's a select team, there are ten players picked. There are recreational teams for those that don't make the select team where all kids get to play regardless of skill level. That's what rec teams are for. You probably think every kid should get a trophy at the end of the season too.
2006-11-14 01:21:04 · update #1
You asked what people thought and you recieved their opinions.. no need to get upset about it. Although I can see they are not reading your question properly. THERE IS ANOTHER BASKETBALL TEAM THE SCHOOL OFFERS WHERE ANY GIRL THAT WOULD LIKE TO PLAY CAN!
On to the question...
I hope the coach did make it KNOWN that she was not going to be playing in any games just practicing. If he/she didnt then I could understand the parent's frustration. You have to make that stuff KNOWN- sure you can come practice and attend the games to support the girls..HOWEVER.. since you did not make the team you will not be playing in the games.
If the coach did make this known- he/she should keep their foot down. She did not make the cut- should not be playing in the games. Next time the coach will know that although it was a nice gesture- he/she can not do this again- it will/is only causing problems.
2006-11-14 02:51:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The parents should understand that there is only so many spots available and the child didn't make it in one so if in the team don't be upset that it doesn't get to play but in all honesty the coach should have never let the child on the team if the child didn't make it it is the coaches fault that the child is now taking it harder after practicing and not being able to play
2006-11-14 11:09:52 · answer #2 · answered by crazy blonde & beautiful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the 5th grade fro god's sake. Children that young should learn sportsmanship first. They need a sense of self esteem. It's parents attitudes like yours that your kids see that reflect into the games and practices. that's why children get picked on and kids don't learn to work as a team. The coach should have every child have play time regardless of there ability. If he wasn't going to be fair with the children then he shouldn't have let her join. All this is going to do is cause self esteem problems with the child involved. My daughters school have sports teams as well, base ball, soft ball, soccer,basketball, tennis, football, whatever else they have anyway they have a rule that every child plays. that's the way it should be.
2006-11-14 09:16:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In 5th grade the sport shouldn't be about winning but more importantly about team work and sportsmen ship. If my child came out of the basketball season learning these crucial points, he would be a winner anyway.
My son played baseball one year when he was around the same age as you daughter, he had a " challenged" child on his team. I'll tell you we all had so much fun that year cheering on the child and watching our children participate in cheering him on as well. We all learned soooo much about sportsmen ship that year. Good Luck
2006-11-14 09:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by ckrug 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't stand parents like that one!!
Although it's sad she didn't make it and all of her friends did....that's life! Maybe it will give her the drive to practice more so she can make the team next year.
Parents need to stop trying to live their lost childhoods through their children. It makes me crazy.
2006-11-14 09:08:08 · answer #5 · answered by Riviera_ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Life is full of disapointments. Way to go parents (hear my sarcasim?) for teaching their daughter that she doesn't have to actually win a spot to be on the team. I'm sick of all the 'touchy-feely' crap that goes on in schools and sports. Winning IS everything. Life is just like that!
2006-11-14 09:10:12 · answer #6 · answered by NEWTOME 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is why I hate competitive sports, why can't people just play for fun anymore?
2006-11-14 09:23:13 · answer #7 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋