Mom is being dirty on her web cam.....HELP!?

Question

About 8 months ago, my boyfriend, my son and I, moved in with my mother. We all have fallen on hard times and thought that this way we could help eachother out. She just started 2 months ago to get really into the internet chatting. She is disabled, so she will sit there all day chatting, web camming, giving our phone number out, to these complete strangers. She has become so obsessed she snaps at anyone who tries to talk to her when she is on, and even yells at my 3 yr old if he dare interupts her. Her computer is in the living room, so the 3 of us have been hiding out in our room. Last night I went to get my son some juice and well she had the web cam up her night gown. I am so disgusted! Can anyone offer some advice? If we move out she will have to sell her home and who knows where she will end up. I want to stay and help her, but I have lost all respect! Someone help....please????

Answer 1

It's obvious you love her, and want to help her instead of just doing the easy thing of bailing on her. So, my advice would be to run an intervention. Turn off the internet service, then sit down with her and force her to face the reality that she has issues.

Keep in mind that there could come a day when you have to leave her alone to her behavior. If she doesn't respond to your attempts to help her (she's an adult with the right to mess up her life), then it may take facing some consequences for her to realize she's on a bad path.

Remember that loving someone doesn't mean making them feel warm and squishy, nor does it mean giving them what they want. Hopefully those guidelines will help you.

Answer 2

At the end of the day, what she does is her own business. I fully understand why you don't like it. It seems distasteful to some people and she is your mother - we often don't want to see our parents as sexual beings.

It does sound as though she is a little obsessive - but if it is the only opportunity she has to meet others then really that is quite understandable.

If it is her house and her home then really if she wants to give out her name and phone number, what of it?

I cannot understand why you should loose all respect for her. Do you want her to live like a Nun? I think that you may need to talk to someone about this or try some counselling.

Where you do need to take action is to ensure that your three year old cannot just walk into the room where she is camming.

J

Answer 3

Ideas ...... Ok !
Yes talk with the Momma .. but first load up with some information...... Find some info on "On line Businesses" or "Work at home with your computer" stuff......then get some information on crafting, scrap - booking and such.

Now when you talk to the Momma about the huge amounts of her time the computer takes up ...you can suggest other ways (with her limits) she can use the electric box to earn more money and net work at the same time.

After that tray the home crafts stuff as a alternative to the idiot box.

Remember this to her is a life line....she enjoys the can't get to me unless I want ya to ....of the computer....

yes giving out the home phone and address is bad ...But work her with kit gloves.... this cyber land has become her all consuming friend .... You've been around long enough to know what thats like to loose a good friend......
You can also try to get her into your daughters life doing "Grand-ma" stuff.
Ask her to make some kewl memories with her grand daughter....take those pictures with the web cam .... and yes the earlier posting of moving the computer to a ..... less public area of the home would help ease her transition back to the real world and give her the privacy you have seen she needs.

Good Luck !

Answer 4

I think she is bored, and then she found sollace over the Internet. But you see chatting can be very addictive, when there is no other form of distraction. Well from my point of view I think you guyz should try to get involved in the chatting thing with her, you know like talk about her friends and ask her how you could make some friends too, and gradually I think you could get her back.
All the best
Richards from Nigeria

Answer 5

Sit your mom down and try to talk to her, if not you will have to get your boyfriend and the rest of your family involved and have an intervention if you can...
Its just not the fact that she is acting "dirty"..its the fact that she is risking her sfaety and the safety of the ones she loves by giving out personal information while showing her sexuality to total strangers on the internet that she has no idea who she is really chatting with out there..
Let her know that you can not let your son , or yourself, live there and take such a risk ....

Your mom might have a sexual addiction that needs to be brought under controll and dealt with in a safe way... getting her to sek professional help might not be a bad idea at all..

Tough situation, I wish you the best of luck...

Answer 6

Well, there is not a whole lot you can do..it is your mother's house and you can't really tell her what to do. She is an adult and probaly not going to listen to you. But I would ask her if she could refrain from doing the dirty things on the webcam when your son is home and not asleep. Just tell her that you don't want her son to be exposed to that kind of behavior. Which if you ask nicely she would probaly do that for your son and you.

Answer 7

Try giving her more good times. Take her to a movie, out to eat. To a place men and woman can meet. I think she feels unloved by hole world. She needs your love and some time, good time. She also needs to meet men so take her to church or other groups for single men and woman to meet. She needs love from a man and yes sex does go with love.She needs companionship so help her. Don't fight with her now. She is having a very hard time and needs help and love so do both

Answer 8

Talk to her and ask if she could move the computer to her bedroom. Tell her that you know that she's an adult and that what she does is her business but that you are concerned for your son and what he might see. If she still won't listen tell her that if not, you'll have to move out.

Answer 9

well if mum isnt breaking any laws,you are creating the problem.you are in her house,respect her privacy.if it is distastefull 4 you ,move down the basement and drink water not juice.why should she change because your family is on hard times?

Answer 10

..... see if she'd like a room with better privacy, because of the presence of male's in the home.... It's unfortunate that your mum was sprung, but so long as she's careful she does'nt get snared by a con artist, your mum seem's a healthy stroppy female to me...... Good on her,.. she like's herself, and she like's being alive..... That's an excellent sign!...