Advice on how to make a long distance relationship work?

Question

My boyfriend (I'm 21, he's 25) and I are 5 hours apart and try to get together as much as possible, each of us has our work that holds us back sometimes. I know I love him and I know he loves me, eventually when we can be in the same city we will probably be getting married. Just was curious as to some suggestions about how to make the distance not such a factor and how to help make this relationship not so hard. Thanks in advance for the answers.

~I know there are people out there who don't think that a LDR works, please refrain from answering this, it's probably going to be a negative answer anyways. I'm sure I'll still get some negative answers though.~

Answer 1

I myself have a long distance relationship. I'm in Canada and hes in Georgia, USA. People say these tpyes of relationships can't work out because of such the long distance, but I tell you they're wrong. We talk every night on the phone and use our webcams to see eachother as much as possible. We get to see eachother in person every other month or so for up to 3 weeks at a time. Just being able to talk to him and see him on cam helps so much when we cant be together in person. I don't know what else to tell you as far as to make it easier. I know how hard it can be, but really, thats all the advice I can give you. Hope it helps!

Answer 2

Look ldrs like you said are hard. They can work only if you both decide to make it work. You both must avoid temptations at all costs. If you can arrange maybe to see each other on the weekends this would make things a little easier. You both can email each other daily, call each other and make sure you do develop a plan to try your best to see each other at least one time a week. This is imperative. If you both can do this, you have a chance for a long term relationship. ( LDRS are the main reason that affect individuals who enlist in the branches of service) They are so hard and then mother tempations raises her ugly head, and then the next thing you know one of parties is straying and seeing someone else. If you both can erase that void a little and staying in contact daily these should help you immensely. But if you go a long period of time without communication or seeing each other, then that is where your problems start to come into play.

Answer 3

Make sure you both keep in contact with each other on a daily basis.I mean, talk about everything that ocurred during the day with yourselves to ensure that you truly know this person before investing too much time in a relationship that ends up in the ditch.Talk about the different challenges and people you encounter and assist each other in making decisions...Make sure you guys aren't just falling in love over the phone because that happens so often, then after meeting with the person you can't stand to be around him for a long period of time.

Answer 4

Its too tough to be in LDRs, I'm not sure if I want to do it myself but, its NOT IMPOSSIBLE... I think communication is the key, on the phone, everyday and maybe send gifts and little surprises along the way. I think if possible you guys should visit each other every two weeks or once a month. Snail mail is also an option cause at least everytime he/she misses you or, ahem, I hope not, feels a temptation getting in, they can read your letter and be strong.

Answer 5

Total honesty. Write letters as well as talk on the phone. Sometimes it is more comforting to hear a voice instead of reading an e-mail or text message.

Answer 6

just stay persistant and positive,,5 hours is not that bad
at least hes not 12 hours away or a country away..
send him christmas cookies in the mail,,keep telling him u love him,,get together as often as u can,,5 hour drive to his place every sat not a prob

Answer 7

long distance relationships don't work

Answer 8

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