the mornings are always rough because we're always in a hurry and she doesn't like to get motivated. often i find myself yelling or spanking when we can't get around on time. how can i handle this better?
2006-11-14 00:17:31 · 12 answers · asked by digity 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Maybe get up 15 minutes earlier ( I know this sucks!! BUT I've had to do this to motivate my 5 yr old to get up for school!!)and have her be the FIRST person who you wake up...maybe have her help get things together the night before...and make her feel like she's important in the morning...might help..My almost 3 yr old son...drags his butt too! And I now hand him the coffee cups to put near the coffee pot at night..(it's like 3 steps from the cupboard to the coffee pot...but he feels like he's part of the MAKING of coffee!) and other things like that...and I find that mornings are made for yelling...I do it all the time..cause at least ONE has a slow start!!! Just take a deep breath when you feel like killing everyone of them...and smile...this time will pass and you'll realize..." hey...I miss that!"
2006-11-14 00:30:33 · answer #1 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is up to YOU, not her. She is just a small child without the cognitive capabilities to understand the complexity of what is expected of her. Spanking doesn't tell her anything except that you are mad and that you hurt her when you get upset. It IS hard getting out of the house with kids in the morning, so how can YOU be more organized so you don't feel so rushed? Clearly you need to get up earlier. And be more organized. Get everything ready in the evening and give yourself 30 more minutes in the morning. You have a choice every time you get angry. Choose to control it. If you find you can't, get help with anger management, because 2 year olds turn into 3 & 4 year olds and can be even more difficult to deal with. Good luck to you.
2006-11-14 09:50:09 · answer #2 · answered by Chris S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to bed earlier. Lay out all the things you'll need to get ready in the morning the night before. Wake her up earlier and give her a chance to get moving. Don't spank. It is never necessary. That's just teaching her that when you don't like something someone is doing, you hit them!! There are a lot of great mothering sites online with many more ideas. Good luck!
2006-11-14 08:21:24 · answer #3 · answered by ladyw900ldriver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter at 2 is much to young to be expected to be motivated. She has no clue about getting ready and time. She will not for a while.
Some things that may help your situation....
1. set out her clothes the night before, or a weeks worth on Sundays.
2. get her to bed by 7:30pm to ensure a full nights rest.
3. get yourself up half hour earlier to make sure you have enough time to get both of you ready.
Shes a baby still, its your job to get her going. Spanking and hitting will say to her "my mommy hurt me", not I did something wrong. I would reconsider taking your lateness/anger out on her.
2006-11-14 08:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What your saying is because your disorganized you punish your baby for it?? Its not her fault that you dont give yourself enough time to get ready. Its your job to get up early enough so that you have time to do all that you need to get done. All your showing her is that shes an inconvenience to you and SHE gets hit for it. It sounds abusive.
My husband works day shift and I have to get her up and my 15 mth old ready. What i do is make sure the diaper bag is packed at night, I figure out what I'm gonna make for breakfast, I have both kids clothes layed out, my daughter gets all her school stuff ready the night before. I use to have mornings like yours, but then my husband was shocked at how hectic they were and how much i was yelling. Now that I plan for the day the night before, my mornings go so smoothly now. Good luck
2006-11-14 09:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by kittykat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 young children. What we found best was for you to get up a few minutes earlier and have yourself completely ready before you try to get her ready. Organization and a daily routine are imperative. You are the boss, when you let the child run you, you have lost. When you are frustrated, take a breath, look into her eyes and remind yourself, she is two years old and looking to you for how she should be acting. It is not easy, but I would not trade these times for anything.
2006-11-14 08:31:14 · answer #6 · answered by Jim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter is not a morning person, she won't be able to wake up and get going quickly. You can't punish her for this, so spanking and yelling should be out. She's only 2 years old....technically still a baby. Get yourself up earlier and get yourself completely ready. Wake her one hour before you have to leave and give her her sippy cup or milk. Put some books in her bed with her and let her wake up gradually with her books or soft toys. Dress her 30 minutes before you have to leave, or take her to her child care place in her pajamas and let them dress her, if they are agreeable. If she's ready for breakfast, feed her 20 minutes before departure. If she's not ready to eat, take her breakfast to daycare or let her eat in the car on the way. Daycare places give snacks mid morning, anyway. She won't starve. It may be, too, that she takes a nap at daycare and then she isn't tired at normal bedtime and stays up too late....which is why getting up early is hard for her. You may not be able to get her in bed earlier so she gets up easier, but you can be patient with her.
2006-11-14 08:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take deep breaths and remind yourself that she is only a little person trying to express her personality. My daughter is almost 4 and I find that mornings are my favourite time with her. I wake up early so that she can lie in bed with me and give her lots of love and kisses, then I dress her and myself, we brush our teeth together etc. Remember that mornings are the best times, coz the day hasn't started yet and no one has annoyed or frustrated you yet. I battle in the evenings, coz I'm tired and irritable.
2006-11-14 08:23:39 · answer #8 · answered by tammi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get more organized get everything ready the night before....then in the morning talk to her in a happy voice so she will wake up happy and will be more cooperative
2006-11-14 09:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
organize yourself better: wake up 30 minutes before her and get yourself ready. get both yours and her clothes ready the night before. fix up her diaper bag the night before. put the diaper bag, your purse and keys by the door. if u drink coffee and have a coffee maker, set that up the night before and put the timer on it so by the time u wake up its ready.
this should decrease the morning hassle. she is only 2 and its not her job to be motivated. we have a hard time with my son who is 4, he takes an hour to put on one sock.
2006-11-14 08:27:29 · answer #10 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋