my ex girlfriend?

Question

my girlfriend finished me last week but am not sure thats what she really wants. because we had finished two days later i went for my stuff and she started crying and cuddling me. i went home then we was texting each other then she want me to go over hers. so i did lay on the bed for a bit and she want to cuddle and kiss me. and she sometimes txt me saying she misses me. she said leave samething her thats your so u have to come back 4 it sometime. see says shewanted to be alone for a bit so she had to finish me. does she want me back and do i have any chase of getting her back. do u think i shud txt her or just leave it for abit?

Answer 1

next time you go over there. no cuddling, no kissing (at first). just tell her to sit down and talk with you. ask her how she feels about you. tell her to be honest and you won't be mad. then ask her why she thinks she wanted to break up. make your decision, but if she keeps changing her mind, it's better off without her cause she'll make you crazy also.

Answer 2

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Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.

Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.

She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!

Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...
She will be hurt and you will be happy!

Answer 3

I'm confused enough just trying to read your question, where did you learn English? I think you are saying that your 'ex' keeps wanting you around and contacting you. Tell her you will leave her alone to get the space she needs but you want her to make her mind up in a weeks time. Then don't answer her texts or speak to her. She's got to understand that it is unfair for her to give you mixed signals. If she's mixed up then chasing her isn't going to help. At least this way if she does still like you she'll realise it more when she can't have you for a week.

Answer 4

Noooo!! It's the dreaded " I don't want to be with you but I'm not sure what I want" scenario. Don't get trapped in there. If she wants you back ask her. But if she doesn't then all this txting and flirting and kissing is just her trying to keep the good parts of the relationship without having to face the guilt of breaking up. You have to give her an ultimatum before you both get to confused and hurt to make any sense of the situation. Either she wants you completely or you should just be friends and no more. Otherwise it is just torture.

Answer 5

Leave her for a bit. Let her know that u love her but cant be doing with this finishing every 2 minutes and need to know where u stand. Maybe then she will realise u are what she wants or not whatever way u will then know where u stand

Answer 6

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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

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Answer 7

Splitting up is not a very nice thing to go through, if i was you i would try talking to her, see where you stand but depending on the situation with being to upset, leave it for a few days, a week even, it sounds to me you shouldn't have split and she still wants you! give it time, girls/women are are funny to work out sometimes lol bl-eve me, i am one whatever happens good luck and i hope it all works out! x x x

Answer 8

I think the poor girl just doesn't know what she wants right now.
A lot of people will be cold or rude to the person they have broken up with
She obviously still has feelings for you, but is torn for some reason. i don't think she is trying to play a game with you.
I would keep talking with her..if it feels better than it hurts...then keep going to see her. Maybe she'll sort thru her feelings and figure out she really wants to be with you. BUT..if you get the feeling she is starting to see other guys, then don't visit with her..and be intimate..You do not want to be used for companionship.

good luck~Your relationship has the definite potential to work out...just don't lose sight of YOUR own feelings...don't let yourself be used or hurt while you're trying to figure this out.

Answer 9

Who can ever tell what's on women's mind? NO ONE. Instead of banging yourself up on trying to understand your girlfriend, if you really love her, give her the time and the space she asked for. If she really loves you, she'll be back, but if she doesn't, maybe she never did. If tha't the case, move on brother. It's painful yes, and I've had my share of those, am still trying to recover from one.. but there is nothing we can do but wait. It's either you'll have her back or find another and start all over.

Goodluck.

Answer 10

I think firstly you should use the spell checker before posting questions mate, it's free!

Secondly, is it not obvious that you have finished? If she said it's over then accept it and don't go chasing her down, not good for a man to do.

Just leave her alone and if she changes her mind she knows where to find you, one thing you will learn is you can never force anyone to change their mind regarding relationships.