please answer this only if u understand wat im saying!!!!!?

Question

if u live in a really bad **** area and cant get out,i have tryed for over a year!if u have been with the wrong crowd since the age of 14 and now im almost 21 and sick of all the crap in my life,and say iv been stabbed recently and some1 with me was killed and i couldnt help them coz i was also stabbed,and now i want revenge i know its not the right choice to make but wat would u do?or wat do u suggest?bare in mind that my area this happens often and iv seen it be4 and like i say iv tryed to get out for a long time but nothing i do seems to work trouble is everywere i go,town,shops,work,even home if some1 wants to come in they kick the door down its been done be4!the police r no help and moving isnt possible for me at this moment and moving wont help coz ppl r every were,all i want is to do things in life good things u know,id like to have a so called normal happy life to do things without always having to watch my back and be aware of who is around me!any ideas????

the army is no option for me so dont say that but thanks anyway!

to my third answer college yea its a nice thought but i dont get that option were i am!

to those who say move to uk well i live in the uk!

Answer 1

First of all I'd hazard a guess that you live in what we Sociologists would call a deprived neighbourhood. This is where the vast majority of its residents are all unemployed or at least have pockets of no go area streets with unemployed people living in them.

Unemployment is a major issue, as not having a sufficient standard of education renders you in an unlikely position to be able to improve your social status. Social status comes with having a job that has a salary attached as oppposed to a weekly or fortnightly wage.

Secondly, the incident in which you were stabbed in should be cleared up as quickly as possible, I know this will be easier said than done as you may feel threatened by the perpetrators if you co- operate 100% with the police and other authorities. Even better if it were possible to catch the killer of your friend.

Thirdly, in areas similar to the above there are also people who feel empowered by trying to improve upon there neighbourhood resident commitees and groups, maybe it is time to change your tack. Get interested in tidying up your neighbourhood this is a very valuable social need and will do you a great big favour. After all at 21 you need to be making progress as far as your social and financial well being. Some of these groups may have managed to raise funds from the European community to finance regeneration projects in areas designated for such imporvements. So being involved in a voluntary capacity could well mean you getting a job.

Fourthly, if things do really look worse than this and you can not see the wood for the trees, than sadly at 21 you will have to start puting yourself first. You will have to make an effort to move, get a training job or more educational qualifications. You owe it to yourself to do this. But if you feel really strongly, there is nothing that can move mountains quicker than someone who sticks it out, in there own back yard who makes sweeping changes to the environment.

Finally you now need a plan, a plan that enables you to use what skills you have and others that are easy to attain with a little effort.

Give it some thought and if it is feasible, I promise I will give you some feed back and genuine advice. You can email me. Have confidence.

Good luck.

Answer 2

The only way is to move away from the area and probably your country.

I was brought up in rough estate and my parents moved cos i was getting involved in lots of sh1t. Some people dont have the option to move house with parents. My suggestion If you are in the States then come to Britain to work on your own or with a mate on visa. Its a good experience to see the world and get out the goldfish bowl of your estate.

If you are in the UK then head to Australia you can get a one year work permit as you are under 30. Just go labouring and enjoy a weeks work in the sun and a drink on the Friday. Lots of nice women in the world.

Dont get bogged down with revenge attacks. just leave the misery were it is and go on to better things. If you need advice on working in other countries let me know Ive worked all over the world and I know due to your street wise knowledge you will get on anywhere.

I have no trade papers. I now have Friends all over the place and hardly ever pay for digs when away from my home.

Answer 3

Sh*it i knew it was bad up north but i didnt realise nottingham was that bad !!!!

( 1 ) I suggest revenge ( kill the person or people that stabbed you and killed your friend )

( 2 ) move area somewhere completely new

( 3 ) get a new and different job

( 4 ) leave your old friends as they are no good for you, just walk away and never look back.

I grew up in new cross/nun head in south east london, I dont live there anymore and have a great job and am doing really, well and never look back.

The only thing that growing up in a hard area teaches you is to be streetwise and able to handle yourself in difficult situations.

Most people would buckle and cry at what I have seen while growing up!!!

Answer 4

Take yourself off to another town a long way away from where you live now and start again. Apply for jobs in that area and go to social services for help in finding accommodation. There are plenty of good towns out there with little or no problems like the ones your facing. A smaller town would be better. Try charitable institutions who may be able to help you find a job and accommodation. I wish you luck, don't give up there are better places to live.

Answer 5

i do not trully understand, but i try.

you are right in saying that moving will not change, because your problems will always follow you (at least in you mind)

to be honest, i don't know what i would do. maybe the best option i to turn all of your problems into something good. do you realise how many people feel the same as you do? and if i don-t understand, i am sure other people (in the same situation) will.

army is not a good option, even if you had no problems or if you were totally ******.

instead of army why not volunteer work, in you state or city or even overseas. maybe this is running away but at the same time is giving yourself a chance.

Answer 6

I am sure that not every one is bad in your area ther must be someone to talk to like a youth worker or such.

Go and apply for college in a different area where u will meet new peeps to hang around with. Or move into a relatives and build your life from there. If you really really want a normal life as the saying goes if there is a will there is a way!!!!!!!

Good luck xxx

Answer 7

hi, maybe you could buy a big dog to protect you or at least give you enough time to get help...or maybe you could share your home with some friends especially good idea if you have big mates who know self defence apart from keeping your head down and not causing arguments i dont see what else you can do, have you no relatives in a different area you could stop with until you get a job there and a place to live or a friend who will put you up...that may be worth a try,,,good luck i hope things improve for you

Answer 8

You can get out, you're 21. There are places that are safe and starting a new life somewhere else is what you need. There are places where people are good and don't even lock thier doors. Head north, pack a bag, get a bus ticket, go north and start out at homelss shelter and they will help you get out of your mess...
God put yo here for a reason and it wasn't to live in fear for your life, you sound like a smart and good person, someone who could probably grow to help others who have little hope...again, bus ticket, shelter, they will help. Look up on line about the safest states to live in and choose one. If you don't have the $ for a bus ticket sell your computer, just get out of there.....good luck.

Answer 9

don't hang around in a bad crowd, my neighbourhood isn't wonderful but noone says anything to me. I work, look after my family and mind my own business.

If you really can't move out then ignore the people causing the trouble, be straight with the police if trouble does start and if you are going to drink do it at home or away from all the trouble.

they'll get bored soon enough

Answer 10

Hi,have you tried applying for jobs in another area.I know what its like to live in a rough area.Where I use to live it was bad not has bad as what you have wrote about were you live.We have moved to another town & now have peace of mind.I wish you all the luck in trying to get away from the place you live,it must be dreadful
wondering whats going to happen next.For your sake do not take revenge put all your energy into breaking free.Good Luck