I’m always alone, be it classes or anywhere. I tend to alienate myself from people, I dunno why…I really wanna change myself and be a bit more outgoing but being alone is something that comes to me from the inside. I’ve a few friends in the house I live in but none in my class. I see my other friends having a chat, a laugh and they seem so happy and I really wanna be them at that moment, having friends and a good time. Even my lecturers have pointed out that I try to isolate myself….what do I do?...I really wanna change but I can’t seem to be able to. Do you reckon counselling is gonna help. Any advice is highly appreciated.
Thanks
--Michelle xxx
2006-11-13 23:48:59 · 13 answers · asked by Michelle M 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Perhaps you are just a quiet person.
Why do you feel this is not good?
Watching the world is a wonderful thing to do.
We are given TWO ears and ONE mouth. Hint, perhaps??
You will learn more from listening than you will ever learn from speaking, and the list goes on...
You dont appear to be a nut-job. Your writing has clarity of thought, so chill and dont over analyse yourself.
2006-11-14 00:14:42 · answer #1 · answered by D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have much the same problem. Unfortunately there is no magic cure. I believe that the reason you can't seem to be more outgoing is because you don't believe that you can really do it. I feel that this stems from a self-esteem problem. Are you happy with the way you look, for instance?
Feel introverted is not a disease; it's a symptom. You need to find the cause of this problem before you can defeat it.
Good luck.
2006-11-14 08:01:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have already taken a big step! 2 actually! first you want to change that's the biggest part...second you have reached out for advice...that's the next hardest thing...so far so good!...maybe making friends on-line is a good start for you once you get used to talking/ chatting you will not be so 'shy' /isolated Counseling might help you too...give it a try couldn't hurt.....I think you have made a good start....and you have already made a few friends here judging by some of the answers...
Good Luck!
Blessed Be!
2006-11-14 08:08:06 · answer #3 · answered by Stormy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say try and work into it don't try to be a social bug right off ..... just start out slow and work your way into it . some people are like you and you probably are fine just not a big people person and what do you enjoy and invite someone to go with you. why can't you laugh i mean don't you deserve to be happy ? you deserve what others have and join in and act intrested in what others are saving that is the first key to friendship. do you feel depressed if so then maybe you should seek help if not get in there.
2006-11-14 08:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by terri e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have confidence in yourself... why do you like to isolate yourself? I'm sure you have heaps to offer. Be confident, but also remember that not everyone can be the center of attention, some people feel more comfortable on the side line. Don't stress, just be happy and confident with who your are and what you bring tothe world.
Good luck
2006-11-14 08:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seem to have the same problem and struggling to get over it. Still I have only improved in casual one-to-one communication level and feel lost in groups or formal environment. Anyways, you have to force yourself to talk and try to catch up with popular topics of discussion, be it fashion, TV shows, cuisine or girls/boys. I really think that counseling can guide us to a better path, so do not hesitate to visit a trained counselor.
2006-11-14 07:55:14 · answer #6 · answered by Smriti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Conuselling is never a bad idea if you can afford it. Maybe you are the way you are because you have low self esteem? Only you know the answer to that question. More than anything just be yourself. If people don't like you then f em. I'll be your friend.
2006-11-14 07:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by Bobby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was that way in high school. I think it comes down to a personal decision. I went to a counselor and decided that it wasn't really helping me. Eventually though, I just grew out of it. I would try to see a counselor, if that works, great, if not, cut yourself a break and just understand that when you feel comfortable and ready to talk to more people, you will.
2006-11-14 07:58:21 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very good blog, a beginner’s guide to abnormal psychology.
Short, clear and simple; and you can even post your question and contact the author regarding particular subject you are interested in
http://sensitive-psychoworld.blogspot.com/
2006-11-14 10:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by LIz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be afraid michelle.
i'm Italian, and there was my friend in the same conditions of yours...he starrted to know new people, play a sport, go to disco, and be mopre expansive...really...
it'a battle against yourself, you must win...so win your loneliness...
2006-11-14 08:03:08 · answer #10 · answered by SANN-A 2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋