there's this guy,he is my batchmate and so we meet each other often.then i came to know from friends that he had a crush on me.i'm not ready for a relationship,so i told him the next day itself to end it.he was quite moody for a few days.i too found it difficult to face him for a few days.time went on and now everything was going on well when i heard that he said that he has 5 years to make me fall in love with him[our course is 5yr duration].i did make it clear before,why cant he stop?i like him as a friend but for sure i cant love him[due to many reasons].i would be going back to college next week.should i say something to him?
2006-11-13 23:41:07 · 18 answers · asked by maya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him that you are seriously not looking for relationship,you can be just friends ,that you have commitments in your studies
if this dont work, then stay away from him
best of luck!!!!
2006-11-13 23:47:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think how hard you try to get rid of him, of course as a lover, he will get your message. Sure, you don't have any such feelings towards him but it does not end the matter, you just can't stop him to have different feelings than those he is having right now for you. So best course is to remain away from him even as a friend. Hello, Hi may be OK. But nothing more than that. Otherwise it will again give air to his subdued feelings and you will again be in trouble. You own your own can't get out of this mess. Just call a common friend of both of you for conveying your message in plain words to him.
2006-11-14 08:18:01 · answer #2 · answered by neo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't' say any more to him. You told him once. He may be persistent, but eventually he'll get the idea when you keep your distance. In this case, I wouldn't even be too friendly with him. Just talk to him IF you have to. Eventually, you will probably find someone you do care for and then he'll get the idea through his thick skull. He may be persistent, but you can be too. You may have to have someone else intercede for you if he pesters you too much. Keep in mind that men don't handle rejection easily. He may stop talking to you. In that case, so be it. It's his loss. Like I've said in other e-mails "he has a problem, you don't have a problem". Good luck.
2006-11-14 08:00:22 · answer #3 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Dear. Pyar kiya nahi jata ho jata hai....
If u don't like that guy u cannot force yourself into it. From what u wrote i can feel that u r very straight forward person and want things clear and all perfect.
but it won't be right for u to burst on him. you said u heard people saying that he will take 5 yrs to make you love him. Let him make a move and then u can make it clear and plain to him that u relaly don't love him,
Enjoy life king size
cheers
2006-11-14 08:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by zarar don 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't say anythin gto him. he dosen't love you anymore. it's just that boy's can't take NO that's the reason he is behind you every now and then, and to prove other's that he made you fall in love with you.
carry on with your thoughts and if he approaches again to you then tell him u are going to start call him brother in front of everyone in college. so he should stop the same.
2006-11-14 09:12:58 · answer #5 · answered by Hidimba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give it to him straight, and tell it like it is the next time he persists. I have seen situations like that persist out of control, just because one party failed to say something (or say something at the right time). Tell him the next time you see him, if you really want to maintain the friendship. But if he remains stubborn, I guess your only resort may be to stop talking to him.
2006-11-14 07:57:40 · answer #6 · answered by ludacrusher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever you do , dont let it drag on. maybe when there are a few of your freinds around get someone to bring up the subject of relationships and when its your turn make it clear to everyone that you not interested, and bein chased turns you off even more
2006-11-14 07:47:17 · answer #7 · answered by bellsby3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he got the message loud and clear the first time
i dont think he would take the pains of risking another humiliation; but in case he does, just tell him off!
besides, silence can speak volumes at times!
2006-11-14 13:30:46 · answer #8 · answered by jas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yey my dear friend U have taken him to the right path dont make him to go to the wrong path.
2006-11-14 07:53:14 · answer #9 · answered by Ramasubramanian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is this ? You like him as a friend. When he has stated his intentions and you do not like it why do you hesitate. Tell him straightaway that you do not want to talk to him and forget him. You shall be doing justice to your future.
2006-11-14 07:52:24 · answer #10 · answered by SGraja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋