Was going out with an amazing girl when she said that she wasn't ready to be a couple as she had broken up with her last boyfriend just a short time ago and hadn't been single since she was 12. She wants to stay friends and we get on really well so it will happen it just hurts really bad at the moment. Don't really want to go and randomly pull someone else so is there anything I can do to make me feel better?
2006-11-13 23:35:52 · 31 answers · asked by Dougal F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is 22 so it has been 10 years for her
2006-11-14 00:00:24 · update #1
Chocolate.
Only joking, everything for a reason young man. Learn from it and move on. Feelings are feelings you cant buy and sell them they are just in your head and heart.
Get into something that excites you and immerse yourself in it. make sure it is a positive thing like the gym/sports or mechanics etc dont get into depressing music or drink etc.
You sound like a good lad you will get a new girlfriend when you are ready for one and you will be wiser and a bit more careful not to put all your emotional eggs in the one basket.
2006-11-13 23:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by SunGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time babe that's the only thing just give her time and you as well it may just work out yet, looking for someone else just wont cut it cause if you still love her then your only hurting yourself and someone else. Cry and let it out this rubbish that real men don't cry is so wrong, because in fact real men do cry trust a woman who has dealt with a real man that does not cry and he ended up having a break down its not worth it. good luck. I really hope you feel better soon. And don't feel bad talking about it to people that to helps .
2006-11-13 23:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by debbie anne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever I am upset, I go for something to eat and drink, even a glass of water and a sandwich. It calms me down. I think over my problem while reading the paper and then call a friend. Then I put my action plan into effect. I ask others what they think of my problem. Who knows why I can't get any good advice from my extremely negative t.v. junkie mother over the phone. She keeps complaining that she has no social life, hmmm... I would go out and celebrate with some pitchers of beer, highballs, pool, dancing and music. Buy a nice piece of art, a new leather interior job for your car, or a new dress for going out.
2006-11-13 23:43:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go hang out with some of your regular friends. Don't bag on the ones that have a gf or bf though. Just get out of the house and start living the single life. You never know who you will meet and when! Good luck!
2006-11-13 23:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by jls1znv9999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you were dumped, I think maybe she thinks enough of yo to be honest and she really does need time, I don't know how old she is but if she hasn't been with out a guy since 12, the truth is she really does need time.
Be nice to her and be there for her but on her schedule, she needs to get to know herself.
If that doesn''t help consider this:....all guys, all guys and girls, no matter how hot they may be have been dumped for real...I am female and always have been comforted by thinking j-lo and jennifer Anniston have been dumped too, it happens to everyone.
Again though, I don't think yo were dumped. ahng in there...good luck
2006-11-13 23:47:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that it is her loss. There may be a better person for you in life. It will take some time. You will survive even if right now it doesn't feel like it. Keep your head to the sky. FOCUS ON YOU. If you want to be friends that is good. If, not, that's o.k. too.
2006-11-13 23:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by justrying2makit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no way to fix the realisation that you got dropped. but you can look at the freedoms you now have as time to get yourself sorted and into a position where girls want to know you. get successful, do great things. dont grovel for affection. each day is one day closer to normality.
one day you will be in a better situation where you can call equal shots in a relationship, and life will be awesome
2006-11-14 00:07:50 · answer #7 · answered by SAINT G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let this get you down. You are better off knowing what's what early on. To persue her now for romance will make you look like "the fool". You're on the dreaded "friends" list. Maybe years from now you'll run across her and things could be different, but for right now, "fagetabout it".
It's your ego that's hurt...walk it off.
2006-11-13 23:44:04 · answer #8 · answered by clarence_starksiii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time out for yourself. Look at it as if you have been set free who knows you may have just had a lucky escape. Be her frined and see the real her and in time you may see why you were lucky.
2006-11-14 00:28:14 · answer #9 · answered by Label Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the only thing buddy. If you want to play ball on her field later down the road then you had better play it cool and take things as they are for now.>
2006-11-13 23:41:16 · answer #10 · answered by Captain Comment 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋