my friend has always been a virgen up until now that is. she met this guy and i guess shes madly in love and so is he but she says she cant stand him sometimes and feels like dumping him!!!!! but she feels like she cant because she lost her virginity with him and she feels like she cant be with nobody els and that nobody will want to marry her or be with her!! what can she do?
2006-11-13 23:30:17 · 13 answers · asked by chicaguanajuatence 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she can either dump him or not. i don't see other options. i see no options for you.
2006-11-13 23:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a young relationship (meaning they've just started dating each other). Sometimes I can't stand my own family, my boyfriend, my life, my fish. But I still love them (fish too). The word "stand" used in this context, seems like a very temporary feeling. And in young realtionship where they've shot full speed ahead (having sex)...they probably haven't really discovered each other's full and real personality, and now she's floundering and confused. Give it her some more time to figure out where the relationship is headed.
As for the virgnity issue, if she is a religious person...yes, this might be a huge issue for her and all she can ask for is religious guidance.
If she's not a religious type...well, then she has led a very clean and sheltered life (i'm guessin), or she has set strict standards for herself, and feels guilty for failing herself. What can she do? I suggest watching some Sex in the City to open her eyes. There's a huge world out there with all sorts of people, a lot of people with a lot of different view points on "sex before marriage"...some that would find her situation A-OK, and nothing abnormal.
2006-11-14 07:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by CloudRider9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sunk Cost Theory: You can't get rid of or turn your back on something because you have already invested a lot into it, even though you know you will not enjoy the rewards from the investment. Like, you wait in line for a long long time, then discover you don't want to do whatever you are waiting in line to do...do you leave the line or just wait alittle more even though you don't want to.
Lose him.
2006-11-14 07:35:05 · answer #3 · answered by sealguy77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loosing your virginity isn't what it used to be anymore. Real decent guys wont care about her past and wont judge her by that. She should dump the guy. Seems like he pressured her into the sex thing. Good luck.
2006-11-14 07:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by jls1znv9999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take that chance of dumping him. He is probably treating her badly because he got her. I would tell her there are many out there that would love her for her not because she's not a virgin.
2006-11-14 07:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just cause you lose your viriginity to someone doesn't mean shes destined to be with him forever..
perhaps she wished she made a different choice but there isn't much she can do about it now.. so the best advice you can give her is.. to tell her if her bf isn't making her happy perhaps she should find a new one that will make her happy..as for someone caring that she's slept with someone else..
i dont' think anyone will really care.. it may bother some people.. but someone should accept her for who she is.. and that she had a past..
if her new boy can't accept that then perhaps she should find someone who is more understanding
2006-11-14 07:35:20 · answer #6 · answered by steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to look at the world around her, its filled with people that will happily take on another after losing their virginity....your friend needs to grow up, and take the time to get to know herself before she continues dating anyone.....
2006-11-14 07:34:56 · answer #7 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they have to talk to each other and tell each other how they feel. If they are in love then they shouldn't be thinking these kind of things.
2006-11-14 07:33:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u sure ru friend isnt u but anyway if being with him is hurting her inside she needs to say bye to him
2006-11-14 07:33:27 · answer #9 · answered by crybaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its her life.
2006-11-14 07:41:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋