is there anyone that can tell me what i can do to get my girlfriends daughter?

Question

can someone plz help to to figure out what i can do to get my girlfriends daughter to stop blaming her mother for her coming back here to get her niece an take her back home with them because ever since we had the grand kids an there parents came back an got them an took them back home my girlfriends daughter has been being a b**** an she has been threatning her mother an her mother is very ill an we live in ky an the law wont do anything to help out so what should i do

Answer 1

I wonder how old is this child? if it were me and moms not doing so well I would try talking to the child and explain moms situation. The child may feel like shes losing her mom and doesn't understand how to cope. When I was a tennager I threatened my mom and she has someone come over from the juvenile court to "TALK" to me.... That scared the S!@# out of me and I didn't behave that way anymore. as far as KY law you could always have someone you know that the child doesn't and have them lie to her and scare her.. At 13 My son thought he could get away with anything and I had a friend (who's in the military) come over in uniform with some phoney brouchers about military school... All BS I made them on my computer.... well it worked my son hasn't acted nasty in a long time that was over a year ago...Right or wrong you need to find a way that works for you because in the end your the adult and they can't forget that...

Answer 2

So her mom is ill but took on caring for her niece and now the daughter is being a brat?

Poor daughter! She thinks 1) her mom is going to die, and she's not ready for her to go and 2) mom doesn't love her and took on these other kids because they are better than she is.

Try some support and a shoulder to lean on.

Answer 3

it depends on how old she is, but if she has the time and energy to fight put he to work and keep her busy.

she is probably worried and angry with her mom because she is so sick.

but not able to verbalize it.

this happens to children when they feel that they have no one in the world who cares for them and the only person who did care is abandoning them

it doesn't matter if your girl friend is doing it on purpose, children can't associate this. its all sub conscience.

so what i would do is keep her busy with a job she can feel sucessful at.

enroll her in a sport, or swimming, or dance class

something you can say to her,

wow you did a great job, or your awsome.

children need that, even adults do.

and remember to have compassion, she is a kid you are the adult
don't fight with her and expect her to act like and adult
she isn't one.

and if you talk fresh she will too, so make sure you act responsibly and patiently and kind-

just paying the bills and caring for her mom isn't what she needs, feeding someone isn't enough for kids.

She needs praise. and affection.

I would also like to metion this all depends on her age.
but it should work for children 10 to 15
15 is a hard year for girls, especially if they don't feel pretty.

so 15-17 is ruff no matter what. they change at 18-21

If you try it my way for 2 weeks you will see results.

good luck
meg
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Answer 4

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