My sisters Engaged with 2 girls-Her Fiance works in the army and brings home a decent pay packet but he spends it on crap.My sister works too. If shes stuck she gets loans off moneylenders+sometimes from me-She was stuck to pay the car tax a few months ago so i said she could get a loan on my book and she couldnt thank me enough. She gives me the money to pay it off each week!! I was just happy to help.
In July she needed 400euro-So i dipped into my savings to give it to her.Then in October she needed money to Put away some toys for the girls for xmas So i gave her a loan of 100euro.Then a few weeks ago she had to get a few new school books for the girls so i gave her another 100. now shes said she cant afford to pay me every week and can i pay it off for her and every month she will give me what i paid! She already owes me 200euro and now she wants me to pay off her loan. Honestly i can afford to but why should i?Its not my problem-Im sick of getting her outta Jams
2006-11-13 23:02:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Let her know the well has run dry or is running too low. Be sympathetic but firm. If she gets irrate with you then she is simply just using you. She should be ashamed of herself. I am sure there are plenty of other people she can borrow money from. If there isn't it's because they have had enough her mooching and told her off. Good luck either way!
2006-11-13 23:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by jls1znv9999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its good you want to help but while you are constantly bailing her out her fiance is spending what they should be using to purchase what they obviously need,you are not helping,,she should be telling him they need to budget better as if they are going to be married she needs to know exactly what she has to work with each month.the loans in your name,,you are liable for and if you dont pay it is your credit rating going down the tubes and then what? get her to give what she can and you pay the rest,,if she cant have anymore from you every small payment she makes is coming off of what she owes you and it may take time but the reduction she is getting will allow her to use some of her remaining money to save for the essentials.she has kids and a future husband,,she needs to sort this with him.
2006-11-14 07:10:26 · answer #2 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do one thing say thanx to ur relationship and tell her openly that u love ur sister but at the same time u need her to stand on her own foot.
2006-11-14 07:06:31 · answer #3 · answered by sm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to be sick of saving her ***. and she is taking advantage of you. it wouldnt kill her to save money. you obviously saved money and worked hard for what you got, why should you blow it all on her?
2006-11-14 07:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by Kittie_Nash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say no, you're not helping her by bailing her out each time.
2006-11-14 07:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have sovled your own problem. Stop lending her money.
Make her be responsible.
2006-11-14 07:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by d b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you don't have the money, but she can use what she owes you...
2006-11-14 07:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋