My mate is into rock music and has a rock image look about him. I don’t know for definite if his type of women are rock chic looking women but I know he had a brief fling with a rock chic looking girl in the past. Myself and him are mates and stuff has happened between us in the past of a sexual nature. We don’t regularly sleep together at all but he does fancy me a lot and we do get on. He won’t go out with me which I accept completely but I asked him if the reason was because I don’t dress like a rock chic and he said yes. Is this a fair comment?
It would be silly to change my image for him, wouldn't it? Or would it be a good idea to change?
2006-11-13 22:56:19 · 19 answers · asked by rainbow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is such a bad reason not to be with someone after all it hasn't stopped him going out with you as mates and doing sexual things. So why would it stop him from going out with you.
I'm sorry to say that he seems to what to have his cake and eat it. he whats you around but doesn't want to commit.
Move on to someone who deserves your attention and put it down to experience.
2006-11-13 23:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem because I was a rock chic and the guy I liked didn't like the fact because he was a townie. We never got it together properly but is was a lot of fun. Don't change yourself for him because for all you know it could be over within a few months and you have changed yourself for a fling!
2006-11-14 07:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by smudge 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are getting used for "stuff of a sexual nature" only. If he truly wanted to be with you in any other way, he would. Don't try to change yourself for any one else, it always ends up back-firing on you. If he can't accept you for who you are, then he doesn't deserve to be with you. Be happy and comfortable with yourself, you will find someone more worthy of the person you are. Image isn't everything, what is more important is the person you are on the inside. If he's judging you based solely on your image, you deserve better.
2006-11-14 07:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not good to intellectualize sexual attraction too much... it's either there or it's not there. However, it sounds like he's got an image to protect, and that is something that you might find reprehensible, in which case dump him, or if you find it acceptable, maybe you should try out the rock chick look once in a while just as a fling. who knows, you might find it sexy, too.
2006-11-14 07:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by niko 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he sounds very shallow to me, the way you look is not an issue, it is the way you are inside that should count, so if all he wants is for you to look the part, then he is obviously not really interested in you as a person.
if you are good enough for him to sleep with, then you are good enough to be seen out with him.
there are no guarantees that he would take you out even if you did change your image, do not bow down to him, be your own person and not someone he wants you to be just for appearances.
the only person who can make this decision is you, ask yourself this, do you value your self enough to stand by what you believe and want and to be who you are,
or are you willing to become someone who is dictated to and told what you can or can't wear,go,see or do.
good luck in whatever you decide, and just remember, there is someone out there for everyone,
someone who will love you for who you are now.
2006-11-14 07:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by mythmagicdragon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, absolutely!!! - he is right to decide depending on your image. I am a guy, and I have certain tastes, and so does your friend - he is allowed to, it is his choice. However, if you are uncomfortable with him deciding to go out with you based on your image, you need to tell him that and let him know that you want to be rated not based by your image. All the best though, you might not get an answer that you like!
2006-11-14 07:09:42 · answer #6 · answered by Dave777 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what is the point in changing to suit him. what if he decides to change into something else next week then you change again? be yourself that's the only way you will feel loved by yourself. after all that is the most important thing.
there are many other guys out there who will love you for you.
2006-11-14 07:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER
change yourself for a guy, if he doesnt want you the way your are, ur better off alone.
problem with changing for other people is taht you lose your identity. what happens when their no longer in your life? your left confused and unable to think for yourself and or make your own decisions
pls be carfeul what you do to impress a bloke.
good luck finding a great guy
2006-11-14 07:01:05 · answer #8 · answered by emboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all I would say change for no one , second of all if you are good enough for him to sleep with you and not go out with you then something is totally wrong there unless he has another girl friend who he is going aut with and you are just for the moment;
but if you really do need a change change for yourself not for anyone ,good luck.
2006-11-14 07:16:14 · answer #9 · answered by Tash x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only a sexual relationship between mates so be yourself
2006-11-14 07:56:28 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋