I have to decide if I leave my b/f or stay with hi,. we discussed our relationship last night and he has left me to make a choice. I love him to pieces and really ont know what to do. Our realtionship is great. I have issues cause he wont indroduce me to his family and friends.
2006-11-13 22:48:41 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he says its because all his passed 'normal' relationships have failed and he feels happier there just being the two of us . without interference from family and friends.
2006-11-13 22:56:29 · update #1
i'm not a young girl who doesnt know what she's doing. Ive been ,married before and I have 3 children. He is the only man I have ever wanted or trusted. I just dont know If I can wait until he realises how much he needs me.
2006-11-14 02:04:50 · update #2
Love him with no conditions and terms.He will introduce you when he is ready.If you can't take it you are better off leaving now instead of waiting to get more hurt after you have invested too much in him.
2006-11-13 22:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by sherie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no ultimate reason to make the decision yet. You have obviously spoken about it last night as you saidand decided to come to a final decision tonight. Well if I may say that probably seemed the best slution at the time. I would say it was a rash decision taken in theat of the moment even if it did not feel tha way at the time,
He must give you a valid reason why he does not want show you off to his people and how ever hurtful that may be to yourelf you must bear that and either change (but perhaps he would not want you to) to suit or if that is not reason yo must accept the truth of the situation he presents to you. This could be that there is some one else involved.
When you have both had time to reflect on the real reason then would be the time to make your decision to leave or not.
Good luck
2006-11-13 23:00:20 · answer #2 · answered by philipscottbrooks 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your boyfriend has some issues he needs to address. It seems like he's saying he wants to be able to hide the fact when your relationship fails from the other people in his life so he won't feel the embarrassment of looking like a looser. This might be a carryover from his previous miss-steps, but it packs all of the relationship insurance of a prenup. When you expect to fail, you allready have. If he is sincere about you he will not want but Need you in every part of his life. As a true couple you are a single unit 24/7 and wouldn't have it any other way. Until he gets his head on straight, cut and run.
2006-11-13 23:17:16 · answer #3 · answered by Hank B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation you maybe have to test the water. This is what I mean, tell him that you are not happy that you are not yet introduced to his family and friends and unless he does something about it now you will leave HIM!!!
You will find out if the guy is cheating or married if he lets you go.
If he wont after this ultimatum then it really is best to get out now because the longer it goes on the more you will be hurt. Because if he wont the only certainty is that he is using you until he needs you no more.
To be honest love it sounds like you are the one on the side? Harsh but true.
Give him the ultimatum.
2006-11-13 22:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by scouser 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As he is only giving you part of himself and leaving the decision to you he is not playing a 50/50 role in the relationship so i would suggest moving on and finding a partner who would treat you as an equal ,, Good Luck remember if he won't introduce you there must be a reason and it can only be for a reason he does not want you to know about ..
2006-11-13 22:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess if he loves you as much as he says, then nothing in the world can stop him from getting married to you. so I feel he should be a man and introduce you to his family and friends. Unless, he's just playing you. Or you must be very very damn attractive, that he knows he might loose you to his fast chaser friends or someone in his family. Anyway, If I was him I would be proud enough to take you home and let them see what I have... and would keep for the rest of my life...
2006-11-13 23:17:07 · answer #6 · answered by Terence 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm what he'sa sayign could be tru - maybe friends/family have interfered in the past and casued trouble.. or it coudl be he is compartmentalising you, ie keeping you seperate from the rest of his life, becuase he doesnt want it to get seriouss or he is just very independent. Before dumping him have a talk with him and etll him exactly how you feel to give him a chance to redeem himself, ie you say i would liek to meet you mum/mates etc and if he says no i dont want you to then he is not really seriou sabout you, but he may say yes. Godd luck!
2006-11-14 01:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah.........wow that is a biggie. He won't introduce you to his family and friends. It is simple to me. YOU break up with the creep. There is something he is hidding and you don't deserve to be treated this poorly.
And if he is leaving it up to you to stay together or not..then it sounds like he really doesn't care deeply about you.
No amount of love will change him. What you see is what you get. How many years do you need to be with him to realize he might be married or have another gf and that is why he won't introduce you to his friends and family. THIS IS HUGE!!!
Move on. Your heart will mend and you will find a guy who can introduce you to his friends and family.
I can't believe you have put up with this. Sounds like he is demeanig you and you let him to it.
YOU be the one to end it. Be brave and strong!
2006-11-13 22:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt sound like you have a great relationship at all. It might be fine behind closed doors when its just the two of you, but that is no way to live...I think you should leave him & find a guy who is proud to show you off!
2006-11-13 22:53:05 · answer #9 · answered by Pippa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you consider this the most important question then there is no way you will give him up, you're not ready.
He sounds like he is a manipulative, controlling,deceitfull person who likes to play the victim and shift guilt onto others.
He is possibly ashamed of his own family, giving him the benefit of doubt.
When, and if, you are hurt enough, you will leave him.
2006-11-13 23:18:47 · answer #10 · answered by Spoonraker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋