rape. i need help?

Question

hello all I have a situation.
When I was 14 I was raped by a guy who was 27 ( he told me he was 17)and i didnt tell anyone except my boyfriend and he told me to go to the police, (I'm 17 now) so i decided to call and when I called the lady searched him and told me that the same guy has raped a 13 yr old and many many more victoms and he only served from augest to january? i just dont f*cking get that he ruined my life . Im going to court to put his *** in jail. the only thing is that im so scared to face him. its been so hard trying to deal with it every single day with flash backs and nightmares. I need help. Anyone who has expiereinced what i have been through knows what im talking about. the awkward thing is that he moved about 1 minute (walking) from my bf's house. i hate that this child molester who is 30 now btw is free and having fun when he took so much from his victoms. what should i do? please help me.
also i told my mom and she said it was my fault? but i was only 14 :(.

hassan I was born in iran but live in the usa now and virginity was so important to me i wanted to wait atleast until i was 18 with someone i love but he took it away.

also i think its pretty damn stupid to make someone MARRY their rapist, wtf

Answer 1

just think that you have to face him in order to get into jail and think that he will be unable to hurt any other girls. this will make you feel better

Answer 2

it was never your fault, your mum is wrong 2 say that, but you are doing the right thing by trying 2 put his *** in jail cause if he done it 2 you and other girls then there may be more and you may stop him doing it 2 more, try putting a restraining order against him where he is not allowed near you or your bf, always remember that you are better than him and he is the scum of the earth, i wish i could say more 2 make things better but alas i can't, best of luck putting the fuckwit behind bars where it may happen 2 him and he can reflect on the hurt he has done 2 those that he hurt

Answer 3

What happened t o you was very sad... It is pathetic that people like that are still allowed to walk around to do more damage... I think firstly you need to just be strong, its hard but you need to hang in there. You need to also try overcome your fears, again this is very hard but every time you begin to fear or have nightmares HE IS WINNING... Regardless to what anyone has said it was not your fault and never doubt that... What these guys do is not just physical but emotional... But you need to realise what dosn't kill you makes you stronger... You need to take back the ground he took from you and this is going to be an emotional battle you'll have to face... Lastly what I advise is keep you chin up regardless of what people say to you, have hope that this will all get sorted out and find the faith to overcome it all... You face a battle that so many young girls face every single minute so you are not alone... You'll be in my prayers and I KNOW YOU'LL COME THROUGH THIS STORM IN YOUR LIFE.

Answer 4

Mimi, I'm Arab and Indian, and I was raped many times. Virginity is also extremely important to us, and my parents blamed me too. I also reported one to the police, and they didn't do anything. Maybe if there is substantial evidence in your case and in other cases against him, something can be done. Besides, it's statuatory either way. I hope that this can be resolved at least legally. I don't know how you're feeling now, but if you want to talk to me, you can email me at matineesiren@yahoo, or message me on yahoo at matineesiren. I know what you're going through.

Answer 5

It was NOT your fault. Your mother is wrong. Sounds like you are on the right track to getting some closure. It is scary to face someone who has hurt you. I, however, believe you have an inner strength that will help you through this. Good Luck!

Answer 6

First of all, it is NOT your fault, no matter what ur mom said. That guy is a horrible jerk and I think u r right to go to court. Think of all the other girls who will thank you for doing this! U'd be finally giving this asshole the punishment he deserves for doing such crimes! U go girl, I wish u luck!

Answer 7

Uh!! Your mother - I am sorry- and no it was not your fault- nail the bastard!! He is a sick perv- and needs to be locked up for life- maybe he will be seen as a chronic offender- I wish I could be there for you and give you moral support- been there - I hope you have a friend to give you moral and emotional support- D

Answer 8

you should have told your mom the day it happened. you need to get counseling. my exgirlfriend was raped as a child. she has had mental problems since (she is 40 now). also, do what you can to get the guy in jail. the court can protect you from him.

Answer 9

Well your mom is wrong,and you don't need her kinda help I don't no what to tell you I'm 43 and still living with it the nightmares only cone once in a while but it will always be with you You just learn to live with it..Sorry..

Answer 10

Of course it wasn't your fault you poor thing!!!

I highly suggest that you go to counceling!! Please do it!
I've been through this myself and the sooner you go the better, otherwise more garbage will keep piling on top of this garbage you already have.

Good luck, and one day your mother will be sorry. I promise. My parents were the same way with me, too.

Answer 11

i really regret the situation.
unfortunately the law is taking a long time to nail him down.
i m sure he would be behind bar for his life sonner or later.
in the meantime try to relax and forget the past as u were just a kid.