My ex & I split 6 weeks ago, but have still kept in touch,&slept 2gether a few times since (yes, I know, I'm stupid).He says that he's seeing some1 else (he's not very positive about her 2me),but still calls & wants 2see me etc. I am not sure she exists.She may: she may not.
We split 4 very valid reasons,after 3 years together,& even though I REALLY MISS HIM, I don't think that we can have any kind of relationship (even as friends), so would it be best if I lied & said I had a boyfriend now? I'm not even looking 4 1, as I'm still heartbroken,but I can't really let him know that, as it is quite a come-on, I would say.
I would get a pinch of satisfaction out of lying, if I have 2 admit, but I don't really want 2lie. I don't know if I could keep it up, if he called in the future.
I know there will b those of u who say,don't lie,but just don't sleep with him again.Yes,that would b the sensible option.But if he knows I'm single,he'll call,&quite frankly,I don't want 2have 2deal wiv it.
2006-11-13 21:13:32 · 16 answers · asked by viv friend 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No.
Be honest with him and tell him you both need some time apart for now.
Why not arrange with him that you'll both leave each other alone between now & New Year? That'll give you some space, and him a chance to make a go of his new relationship (if there is one).
As part of the deal, arrange to meet up for a coffee with him at the end of January to "catch up".
See how the land lies then. If you feel the same, it'll be easier to tell him at the end of January.
Just don't be dishonest about it!
Good luck!
2006-11-13 21:19:50 · answer #1 · answered by Mark K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to lie, that's just game playing. Enjoy being single, be confident and be strong and try to make your way on your own as best you can. Have fun and leave this man where he belongs, in your past (even though that does hurt and it's hard to do). You'll never make a clean break if you keep seeing each other.
2006-11-13 21:30:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, passed off me at weekend, i became into goin out with ex for 6 years or perhaps although i knew all the girls he has been seeing in view that we cut up i on no account observed him with one till this weekend. Its a 365 days later and that i haven't any objective of gettin lower back wit him despite the fact that it became into nevertheless frightening, acceptable concern to do is merely smile and say hi and then if available make a rapid go out or save them out of eyeshot so ur not torturing urself. attempt and stay sturdy and dont fall to products, bypass away that till u get residing house if needed, few tears on no account harm every physique yet dont blub in front of him, ul be very unattractive :) sturdy success!!
2016-10-17 06:22:39 · answer #3 · answered by mulry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't lie and tell him you are seeing someone when you aren't. It may get him off of your back for a while but if he finds out you lied it will make you look quite sad and desperate - as if you are trying to make him jealous and not trying to get rid of him!
Don't speak to him - delete his number off of your phone and if you know its him contacting you don't answer. If he texts you delete it straight away without reading the text.
Go out with your friends and enjoy being single!
Failing all of that - tell him that if he doesn't leave you alone you will contact his new girlfriend and tell her what hes been up to! Should keep him away - good luck!
2006-11-13 21:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by Lottie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more fool you and shame on you for sleeping with him when he's with some other girl-thats just wrong regardless of whether he speaks good about her or not!
get over him and find someone else - really- its not that hard ! and he doesnt seem to make you into a very nice person so you seem better off without him end of story! you are strong enough to ignore him and if not imagine if he cheated on you when u were with him!-im sure that should give you enough motive to hate him! once a cheater always a cheater! for all you know he could of cheated on you!
2006-11-13 21:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by princesssp8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't answer his calls. If he asks you out, tell him you are busy. Tell him you can't. Tell him you don't want to talk to him and If you don't see any other way out, lie. If you decide to tell him you have a boyfriend, don't give him any explanations. Just use your new "boyfriend" as an excuse everytime the old one approaches you/invites you/tempts you. But at all cost, stop seeing him so you can move on. Good luck!
2006-11-13 21:21:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is an option! how are you supposed to get over this guy if he keeps txting you and sleeping with you? it's just not meant to be, so if that is what you have to do to get over him, then do it! apart from that if he has another partner, then it isn't really fair on her ( i don't mean that in a funny way ) it will be hard, but hey there is plenty of nice lads out there, play the field abit ( i don't mean sleep around ) lol, let your hair down and good luck!!
2006-11-13 21:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by red devil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love you don't have to lie just make up your mind and try to stay that way.Even if you still see him this way things are not going to change or get better and you will not move on .Trust me you will feel better and stronger as a woman if you put your feet down ,make up your mind and stop seeing him.Heal up your wounds move on then later you can make up your mind if you want to start hanging out with him if you want with no strings attached.
2006-11-13 21:22:45 · answer #8 · answered by shiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what you have to do to make yourself more happy, if that means telling a little fib to stop him calling you and to get a bit of satisfaction then thats not a terrible thing. I say do it, we've all been there, heartbroken and unsure what to do, good luck X
2006-11-13 21:44:02 · answer #9 · answered by crownose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change your mobile number! hes not being fair on you .A split is a split and drawing it out means pro-longing the withdrawl symptoms, give yourself time and space to recover and you'l find you can smile at the memory of your time one day... plenty more to life than having a boyfriend,get the girlies together and get out there.be selfish , plan stuff .......You have no reason to take his calls or see him do you?! x
2006-11-13 21:31:32 · answer #10 · answered by wickedsoul132 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋