I was bullied at my last school, by both males and females and wonder if this has anything to do with it. I feel really stupid about this. Help?
2006-11-13 21:13:12 · 7 answers · asked by Steph :-) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey. You are just gonna have to force yourself to talk to guys. It is tough as hell k. But once you start talking to them. Itll get easier, and easier. Being bullied would definately be a problem with your confidence. But you gotta build it back up. You sound cool, your lift yourself back up. And dont let others bring you down. You will notice once your outta school. You will hardly see anyone anymore, all them bullies will be gone. So if you cant fix yourself now, wait til you graduate. And you will meet all new faces in college, or a job or whatever you do. And build new confidence and reputation from there. It works.
2006-11-13 21:16:50 · answer #1 · answered by Cody B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bullying has a lot to do with it. It's put you on the defensive and as a result, you try to hide from the situation to keep it from happening again. It's a normal response to bullying.
The longer you go without being bullied, the more confidence you'll gain. Until then, try looking people between the eyes, literally. It'll give them the feeling of your looking into their eyes, but you really won't be doing that.
Pick a spot on their forehead and look at that while you're talking to them and they'll never know the difference unless you tell them.
2006-11-14 06:27:29 · answer #2 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about it as long as the new people dont bully you too. So long as the atmosphere is more relaxed than before & nobody else notices your shy behaviour, you should start to try & practice being more assertive. Stand tall & be proud. Bullies tend to pick on those who are introverted & dont have the ability to defend themselves. Similarly, people love to socialise with people who are proud & stand tall.
2006-11-14 05:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by Claude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah sad to say but it has everything to do with the way your behaving, u have lost your confidence, i used to do this i couldnt give anyone eye contact i used to cover my face with my sleeve and just look down at the floor, with time it passes i promise u will get more confidence and and be more happy with your apperence go on a shopping trip and get a make over to make u feel better, okay!
2006-11-14 05:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by heleney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi buddy...i can understand your problem....most of the d times v feel there is sumthin wrng with us....but wht v forget is a lotus blooms in d dirt.....even i was like u....get nervous wid ppl...but then i had to change myself cz i got enuf of being ridiculed by ppl.....when d whole world underestimates u thats d time when u got 2 give the world wht u r really capable of....jst be confident...make frns arnd...dnt think much...dnt be rude....try to get ur communication right...u need to put efforts no doubt abt that n give urself sumtime....soon u will stand head to head with those guys arnd u......hope my advice helps.......regards
2006-11-14 05:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by rajdebrain 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its ok, you are describing most all 17 year olds. just keep reaching out and you'll get less nervous with time.
2006-11-14 06:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by joelius24 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pretend you are looking at a nose instead of thinking you are looking at a person. I think it helps.
2006-11-14 05:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by rath 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋