The only men I seem to meet are lying cheats what am I doing wrong Ive never been unfaithful
2006-11-13 21:11:13 · 19 answers · asked by vanessa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They are out there, honest.
Maybe you looking in the wrong places.
Good luck.
2006-11-13 21:13:49 · answer #1 · answered by FUGAZI 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As strange as it is for a guy to say this, sometimes you have to kiss a LOT of frogs before you find a prince...
I'm not saying I condone lying, just that there is 'honest' and there is 'HONEST'. While I like to be upfront and truthful, there is a different level of detail I use depending on how long I've known the woman, and how close we are. The more directly it will affect my current partner, the more likely the information will come out.
As for 'honesty' in the context of 'fidelity' - which sounds like the issue you are having - this is very much dependant on the expectations you have of a 'relationship' and how you communicate those expectations. My expectations of a committed relationship differs from my expectations of a casual relationship, and I would certainly be honest about whether I wanted to be 'exclusive' or not.
Without laying any blame what-so-ever, you may have to tweak your 'search parameters' and 'selection criteria'. The only mistake you have made is choosing the wrong partners. For what it's worth, if you have never been unfaithful then you have won the moral victory...
2006-11-14 05:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by keltarr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends where you are looking for them! If its in night clubs then they are only after one thing. This is why a lot of people meet there partners at work because you have a better idea about what sort of person they are before you go on a date!!!
Try some different ways of meeting people like night classes or something. You might make new friends who have other friends and make a wider catchment area for you look in!!
Also the loud men are initailly more attractive to women but its the quiet ones who are more interesting when you get to know them and less likly to be unfaithful!
2006-11-14 05:15:49 · answer #3 · answered by Rob S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People lie because they are ashamed of the truth. It's an unfortunate fact that the truth can seem a little dull and in order to compensate, people often gloss over it. I suppose the level to which they fall varies. I don't think anyone tells the truth, whole truth and nothing but the truth, unless they're standing trial for something! LOL. Don't let things get to you. Just play along and enjoy the ride for as long as it lasts...
2006-11-14 07:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by Fragile Rock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, think about it. Both men and women have their pros and cons. Friendship between sexes is very difficult because "trust" is earned through years and can be lost in one second because of suspicion. if you reverse the roles and put yourself in their shoes once, that would probably give you an idea of why we men are such a******s.
Maybe if you changed your type of men slightly. For instance, nerdy as opposed to body builders. Average income vs high income. (poor examples, sorry) Juggle your options in a trial-and-error process so that you can find out what type you like.
2006-11-14 05:17:05 · answer #5 · answered by Cold Fart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol...honest..dear there is a time for everything,these people you meet only come for a season not a lifetime, like true friends and family.they hurt you but make you stronger and you learn more lessons.so you become a better person.you seem nice and when you find that someone it will be like you have never felt pain in your whole life.and you will sooner than you think.good luck
2006-11-14 05:19:15 · answer #6 · answered by lady c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should believe in the sayings "Things happen for a reason"
"If it is meant to happen now it will happen" you are going to meet a nice guy but you should wait until it happens naturally and stop worrying about it!
2006-11-14 05:17:33 · answer #7 · answered by Drop a heart, break a name 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys and girls can be good and bad. Maybe you need to think about what you normally look for in a guy (maybe your choices are part of the problem.....) and consider looking for something a little different.
You might be surprised.
2006-11-14 05:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by Nick W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honest guys are rare the reason they are dishonest is cause they dont realise what they will lose they think here comes another sucka i can con.
its called testosterone guys without guts u will meet someone nice jus dont change who u r because we cant keep it in our pants... well i can
2006-11-14 06:18:06 · answer #9 · answered by spec_007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had the smae problem except with women so dont blame us men all the time
2006-11-14 05:37:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋