Is it rape when you've said no more than once, but he keeps touching you, talking to you, convincing you that it'll be ok and he won't force you and he really does want more than just sex...even though you've asked him to wait, to just hold you this night...but he keeps touching you, making you want it more than you already do...and then you say yes...and 3 dates later he tells you that he doesn't want a serious relationship...and 2 months later...you're dumped...??? I know it's tricky, since I did want to have sex with him...just maybe not that soon...
I was a 29 year old virgin who had thought she had found the man who wanted her for life
2006-11-13 21:05:30 · 16 answers · asked by Ciera 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am sooooo sorry!! I went through the exact same thing!!!! Only it went on for quite some time before I realized he wouldn't ever marry me! I was so completely DEVASTATED.
I'm sure you feel used, cuz hon, you were. I was too. It's so hard to accept people who purposely use and hurt others.
He got what he wanted. Just what he wanted. A priceless jewel such as yourself so he could brag about it and add it to his collection of stuff he's done. I'm really sorry about it. And he could've cared, a little, but a little doesn't repair the damage. A little doesn't make him love you. A little doesn't make him want to marry you.
I wish more than anything that things had worked out with my first one. I was 24 and a virgin, also, and loved him with all my heart and thought he was "the one". I'd promised myself that I would NEVER have sex with a man unless I knew he was the one I'd marry and that I fully trusted.
Man do I ever regret giving in to this man!
It's not rape, even if they keep persistently trying to get it from you and you say no over and over again and then finally give in. It's the giving in part that makes it not rape. If he takes it from you without your consent, and if he takes it from you after threats or force, then it's rape.
I've been there, done that before too (I didn't do the rape, it was the other way around).
Anyway, good luck honey. I totally feel your pain!!!!
2006-11-13 21:11:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to here that sugar.. after sex or before even may not have been right for you. I was asked what took so long 2 months into relationship. was dumped 9 years later.. Keep trying u are young..
PS sorry not rap unless you are 17 ...and have a sleep over ..
2006-11-13 21:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by Mudd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not rape. Whether he pushed or not, you did say yes, and that is consent.
And cases like this are why women who ARE raped have so many problems after the fact ... because people like you continue to try and blur the line. There was no force involved, you simply lacked the self control to stop and you gave in. He's not to blame for that, you are. Own your mistake and stop trying to be a victim.
2006-11-13 21:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by Jaded 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh no that is not rape. If you had sex with him just because he was bugging you and you finally cave in no. And your probably just upset because he dumped you. Sorry I am being blatingly honest but everthing will be okay. Rid this of your conscience and go on with life. I hope everything works out. Love ya bye
2006-11-13 21:10:43 · answer #4 · answered by melucknope 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No that isn't rape, because you said yes. Unless he pinned you down and forced you physically it is not rape. You just met a DOG. Hopefully you protected yourself and you should go get tested anyway for your piece of mind. He's probably done this to other girls. Beware of Dogs, Girl
2006-11-13 21:14:31 · answer #5 · answered by Kia25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very sorry for your experience. Not all guys are like this, in spite of what you may believe after this experience. Keep looking, and the right man will show up.
2006-11-13 21:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by sunline 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What he did was wrong but it wasn't rape, the minute you said yes you became a consenting adult...sorry...I hope the next guy treats you better! He's not worth any of your time at all.
2006-11-13 21:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by xx_lush_xx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your dilema, and what you are trying to say.
Legally, it does not constitute as rape, as meanings vary quite a bit. Your admission to wanting to do it, and then agreeing to proceed with it, would nullify the claim of rape.
Hard as it is, you will need to move on.
2006-11-13 21:15:38 · answer #8 · answered by devs Advoc8 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not rape. It sounds like he was sexually harassing you at first. But since you gave in and said yes, that voids that.. so he just played you. Hes a prick though for doing that for you.
2006-11-13 21:07:39 · answer #9 · answered by Cody B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no cause you said yes. if he had sex with you and you still said no even during the sex then its rape.
otherswise his only crime is being a player.
2006-11-13 21:08:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋