Where to get married??

Question

Where do you think the best place to get married is. My bf wants to go abroad, I want a big wedding with all the famly there???

The main thing we are both worried about though is we hate standing up in front og people and talking.........is it as daunting as it seems?

As much advice as possible welcome......thank you.

Answer 1

hi, when all is said and done the main thing is you will be married and swearing undying love in the vows you make to one another, if you want your family there then I'm afraid you will have to say these vows in front of people...if you think you still cant do this why don't you go somewhere quiet and beautiful and get married and then come back and have a huge reception where all your family and friends can wish you the best, but if you do this you may upset certain family members whop would have loved to have seen you get married....only you and your future hubby can decide do you do it for yourselves or your family....good luck

Answer 2

I got married abroad, it was just the 2 of us, and I have to say I did miss my family, but, we compensated this by having a party when we arrived back home. The important thing was the commitment we were making to each other. I thought for a long time that I had missed out on a big white wedding, and even decided that on our 10th wedding anniversary we would have a renewal of vows. Unfortunately, I was widowed long before 10 years arrived. However, I have been extremely fortunate and I am to be married to a wonderful man in the next couple of weeks. After thinking everything through, I am again going abroad to get married (this time Mauritius). I cannot make your mind up for you, but all I can say is that for me, the day has to be about 'US' the commitment that is being made and the way we feel about each other.

Would any of your family be able to go with you?, some hotels offer packages so that for the first week, you are all together in 1 hotel, and then the wedding couple are transferred to another hotel for the honeymoon. You could always have a bigger party when you get back home.

If you decide to stay at home for the ceremony, then there are plenty of books to help you with writing the speeches, and maybe you could learn some relaxation techniques to help with the public speaking. It probably won't be as daunting as you think.

Wahtever you choose, you will have a wonderful day.

Answer 3

If you want all your guest to make it to the wedding...abroad is most nearly out of the question. Financially its just impossible for some people, not to mention those precious vacation days that some may not have. You can compromise and have both. One abroad for just the two of you (and a handfull of important wittnesses) that won't be a fully elaborate expensive ceremony (but in a lovely place), and then a later one with the whole white and train, and blaring organs and flower girls, for everyone in the States.

I'm not much of a traditionalist, so I feel like if the bride and groom don't want to make a speech, they shouldn't have to. Get rid of it all together, or have some close friend give the speech (that you've written) for you guys. If the guest demand a speech from you guys, just get up, and say "There are no earthly words to describe the love that exists between us, so this is all we can do..." and then you guys just kiss each other (passionately, of course), and its over in a jiffy. If there are "Thank you's" that you want to give to certain individuals, let them know how you feel prior the wedding, so that later when its speech time, those individuals will know that they weren't forgotten.

Answer 4

I'm getting married in January. We considered going to Austria in the snow to do it (we've seen a few beach weddings, and being in the swimming pool 15 mins later really doesn't seem that romantic or special to us!), but in the end that we wanted our family and friends to all be there and knew that they wouldn't be if we got married abroad.

We both also hate standing up and speaking in front of people, but at the end of the day I think you have to put it into perspective. All of the people will be coming to your wedding because they love and care about you, and want to support on your wedding day, not to snigger if you get a bit nervous and your voice shakes!

Having had several months to get used to the idea, I've now reached the point where the idea of it doesn't bother me in the slightest - I'm looking forward to it in fact!

At the end of the day only you can decide what suits you best - just think long and hard about it because you don't want any regrets afterwards. Of course, you could always compromise and get married abroad and then have a reception when you get home.

Answer 5

I got married in June and we were both a bit daunted about standing up and saying our vows but that bit of it flew by so quickly.
None of the men were looking forward to the speeches but they kept them short and they were all really good.
We did the speeches before dinner to get them out of the way and so those doing them could enjoy the rest of the meal without feeling they couldn't have a drink.

It was a brilliant day surrounded by friends and family.

On our honeymoon there were lots of couples getting married on their own and although it's probably right for some people, it made me realise we had done it the right way for us.

Answer 6

we got married here, we hate talking in front of people too but it was fine! i considered going abroad but the though of family not being there on my special day madeus stay here! if you want to get married abroad, why not do that then come home and have a church blessing? your friends and family can be there then - it'll be like 2 weddings - the best of both. good luck

Answer 7

does you're boyfriend want to get married abroad because he,s scared of standing in front of a huge group of people and thinks abroad would be less frightening because there probably wouldn't be as many people there?9/10 you face the priest /registrar not the guests so its not as nerve racking as he probably thinks.when i got married i felt nerves and "did" muck up the vows a little but it was fine i thought the worst part was walking in and everyone turning to look at me once i was up the front and seen he,d turned up(just kidding)i was fine .do whats right for the two of you and no its not as daunting as you think it,s a fantastic day enjoy it...

Answer 8

we wanted to get married abroad but did not want a beach wedding as it is just a boring civil ceremony which lasts about 8 Min's, and loads of people get married on the beach, bit boring we thought.. so we went to cyprus and got married in a 15th century monastery, oh it was sooo romantic, a real church wedding with amazing photos and weather, i had a horse and carriage, everything was half the price of England and we had a wedding co ordinater included in the price of the wedding who organised everything for us, we also went to the beach after the service for more photos, our reception was a dream, we only invited close family to Cyprus for the wedding because like you we were nervous about speaking in front of people and we believe marriage is for you two and no one else, then we came home and a week later we had a reception here for about 200 people and i wore my dress and my husband wore his suit and my dad and husband did speeches, it was amazing, and everyone was happy, good luck to you both xx

Answer 9

ok...try this it will kill two birds with one stone!

Get married/vows (wherever either abroad or having families/friends) at 12AM(early in the morning). And have the party rite until abt 2-3am.

Plus points:
1) U save on food as no one would want to eat so late/early
2) Kids wont attend
3) Most people wouldnt want to come at that hour- but whoever "cares" for you and revellers will be there for sure. So u will get to know who cares and who dont.
4) U can go to sleep after ur party and still wake up and its still ur wedding day!!!- so u have the entire day to spend with ur hubby.....in bed or outdoors!

Answer 10

I would ask you if you could get married where he proposed? How about your ancestry, any significant places you'd like to get married? I am of British & Scottish ancestry & love the idea of getting married someplace Gothic with the men in tartans:) Weddings are your day-don't make it stuffy if you are a casual person, figure out what places mean the most to both of you and then talk about it together.