I love my bf so much and cant live without him. I will do whatever it takes to get him bk and be the person he wants me to be. (pls see last question i asked).
2006-11-13 20:39:28 · 37 answers · asked by billy j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Cmon now. I know you may have strong feelings for him. But if you cant get him back, that is his loss. And killing yourself will not solve the answer. It will only allow you to throw away the chance at a wonderful life that God gave you the chance to have. Are you gonna waste a perfectly good life? A life where you can definately find another nice guy, who will love you and do anything for you? Have a couple of beautiful wonderful kids? A big ol German Shepard. Cmon now girl, he will not be the last guy you fall in love with. You are just desperate as hell. He as nothing to offer, that some other guy cant offer. Now relax, go do something to try to get him off your mind. And go guy fishing aight.
2006-11-13 20:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by Cody B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your b'friend doesn't love you for who you are and wants you to change - then he doesn't love you at all. He should love you for who you are and maybe thats why he has walked away - so you can be yourself and not have to be a different person for him.
personally I think he probably thinks that he's doing the best thing by you.
Why not just have some time out - time to yourself - and try to make new friends and get yourself back out there.
You might feel like killing yourself- but if you love your ex at all - you wouldn't do it - because imagine how he would feel if he found out he was the reason you did it. You would destroy him - if you love him - let him go.
good luck
x
2006-11-14 00:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously hurting very much, I guess from your questions...you are quite young, I know sometimes words come across as very patronising, but, alas, this is life.....You CAN live without him, this is a man who is causing you so much hurt, you are writing things like "I think i might kill myself"....You are You, love yourself and believe in yourself, have confidence in yourself, find and doi things that are going to enhance your life, not for someone else but solely for you. In our lifetime, we hopefully can rely on ourselves and our family. Men and woman for that fact, come and go, being true to yourself and your family is way more important and beneficial. Boyfriends and husbands come and go, yes we feel love, yes we feel sad and hurt and upset when a relationship dies, but from that, you can take so much into another relationship. If your ex boyfriend cant see the good and the love in you, what is the point. If you need to chat, email at anytime.
2006-11-13 20:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by jude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. I don't know how to look for the last question you asked, but let me tell you that if he does not love you, he won't be back. If he doesn't love you, YOU don't want him back. Plus, he should love you for the person you are. Love should not be conditioned to whether or not you please him. You can't love him either if you don't love yourself and if you're willing to "kill yourself" and say things like you can't live without him, then you don't love yourself. He's not the only man for you.. Remember, if he loves you, he WILL be back. If he doesn't love you, he won't be back, but the most important thing here is that you shouldn't want him back if he doesn't. Good luck!
2006-11-13 20:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to step back and really think about this, if your ex can't love you for the person you are then he is not the right one for you. Changing to suit someone els never works, you have to be true to yourself and that means respecting yourself enough to be who you are and before you realise a really deserving guy will want to be with you, just the way you are. Be strong the pain will get easier.
2006-11-13 23:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by Brownsuger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you do anything, take a deep breath, and then count from 1 to 100. Then ask yourself this question, "What did you manage to get by before you met this bf of yours? Will you be able to get someone as good, if not better? Will it be too much to be the (completely different?) person he wants you to be? Would it be possible for you to change completely just for him?"
Voila! Your fortune is going to change for the better. Go and read your horoscope.
2006-11-13 20:48:01 · answer #6 · answered by dreamofyz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From one who has been there and tried it believe me it's not pretty and I seriously don't recommend it. If it works, great, you're out of the picture but you leave your family with that legacy forever. If it doesn't work, it won't change anything and you will still have to rebuild your life. Emotional pain is very hard to deal with but it's something that we all go through. Cry your heart out if you need to, talk to your friends until you get sick of talking about it but I promise that the "sick to your stomach" feeling won't last forever and there will be someone else. Take care x
2006-11-13 21:38:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is true that we can love someone more than ourselves.
People who have never been in love can't understand that.
However, this love can become suffocating and instead of proving our loyalty to the loved one, it can actually totally destroy the relationship; Because, what the other one is looking for, is not a mirror of himself or herself; it's his/ her other half. Something to make him/ her whole.
So, for you to be able to give love, and be loved back, you have to be able to love yourself; To appreciate yourself as a person;
See your qualities, and accept that you cannot be everybody cup of tea, but that you are true to yourself.
How can you pretend to get your boyfriend back if you threaten to kill yourself?
Do you want him to come back to you because he pities you?
Because he feels sorry for you?
Because he must feel responsible for you?
Is that love?
You cannot blackmail someone if you love them.
You have to be able to give freely and be able to let go. If you give him space, he might be able to think; And appreciate you even more.
Love is unconditionnal.
Right now he may need space to sort his thoughts out. That might take time. So if you go and do something silly, how do you intend to make him look at you as someone he can rely on.
That person who is able to understand; who is strong to say, ok, I am there for you if you want me. I am prepared to wait, and well, maybe you won't be back to me, but I love you enough to let you go if it's what makes you happy.
That would make you strong.
Right now, you are irrationnal and totally selfish. Behaving more like a spoilt little girl.
This won't make him come back to you.
I have loved, and been jilted. It hurts; Also, I have thought I'll never be able to love again; But, no. Life and love, are like a plant, which has to survive each winter, and bloom again when the time is right.
You are a person; Your boyfriend another. Accept it. Try and find your own identity, and honestly it's bound to make things better.
Good luck. and don't do anything you will not be there to see if people will regret. KC.
2006-11-13 21:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont ever bend over and change your life to suit someone else! I did it for over six years. I ended up being hurt in everyway possible!
I found someone new! ok, so it didnt happen over night and he wasnt the first or third person I tried, but hey, have a laugh while finding the true love of your life!
Now I plan to get married to this amazing guy!
Dont waste your life on someone else, its like money - waste it on yourself!!!!
2006-11-13 20:46:18 · answer #9 · answered by noggintrude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't kill yourself. I'm serious he's not worth it. No one is. I bet you are young and have your whole life ahead of you. He is not the only one out there. I know it hurts. It feels like your heart is literally burning, but it will get better. I promise. Sweetie, whatever he has done to make you love him so much someone else will do it better. I guarantee. Keep your head up
2006-11-13 20:57:58 · answer #10 · answered by Kia25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋