get his hair cut? he keeps telling me he doesnt want it cut because its winter and he will get it cut when the weather warms up again. is this normal? his hair is now getting very messy and i am starting to get embarrassed being seen with him. should i tie him to a chair and give him a scalping? what do i do?
2006-11-13 20:30:26 · 10 answers · asked by kates_bush 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
he is 10 ....and his hair is straight...
2006-11-13 20:54:08 · update #1
He's at an age where he's going to start trying to assert his individuality. Hair is usually the first place boys start rebelling against what Mom wants. There are two ways you can approach this.
The first is to tie him to a chair and scalp him, or ground him if he doesn't agree to cut it. This is the approach that will drive your son away from you. You are telling him "I don't care what you think, you will do it my way."
The second is to tell him that you would prefer that he get it cut, but that you are willing to let him try growing it out if he wants to try a new hairstyle. Give him conditions, though. Tell him that, if he wants his hair long, he needs to keep it combed and clean. Approach that as a matter of hygeine, though, and don't make it about how he looks. Let him have his own "look" even if you can't stand it. And don't be embarrassed to be seen with him... every other mother there with kids that are/have been that age will know exactly why his hair's like that. :)
Trust me, there are much much bigger power struggles ahead for you and your son. You don't want to make something as minor as a haircut into a major issue. It's only hair and he's only going through a phase. Eventually he'll keep his hair spotless because he'll be trying to impress girls, and you'll be missing the messy haired little boy that you used to have....
2006-11-13 21:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by Answer 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
IT normal for boys not what to have there hair cut because of the cold weather wait till it warm up a bit.
2006-11-13 20:36:37 · answer #2 · answered by smith and jones 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to either get it done or he's grounded from tv, phone, going to friend's homes, everything until he obeys you! Assuming he is under 18 and living with you, you should make the judgement but in compromise with him. Have him cut in just a bit so it doesn't look messy. He doesn't need to look like he's going into the military.
2006-11-13 20:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he between the ages of 10-14 :) haha... just a guess. i have been going through this with two of my sons. the older one at least keeps his mop looking nice... he has curly hair and with jell it looks o.k. BUT, my 10 year old on the other hand has straight hair... and it stands STRAIGHT up sometimes. i have to brush it for him while it's wet to try to get it to lay down (that's why i like it short) ANYHOW... i mess with his hair SEVERAL times a day EVEN IN PUBLIC and at school... getting his hair to lay down. well, needless to say it's embarassing to him :) :) (me double smiling) SO, long story short HE decided to get it cut so i would leave him alone! i love reverse psychology... i didn't complain about the length but made him realize how much work I WAS going to put into him looking good :)
BEST OF LUCK!
2006-11-13 20:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by JayneDoe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you should make him cut it. Parents force it on children, usually.
He'll thank you for it, someday.
If the hair is constantly dirty, or it gets into his eyes, you have a solid excuse for forcing him to cut his hair.
Tell him disadvantages:
Mistaken for a girl
Needs to wash hair everyday or very frequently
Needs ponytail holders
Will have to comb everyday
Will have to blowdry hair everyday
2006-11-13 20:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by callieRach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is he? You have to decide the age to let it go, and the age to where you would be caving & thus handing over your authority to him, give him an inch of toleratring disrespect & he will be taking miles very soon.
Otherwise, if he is of a reasionable age, pick your battles & remember it is just hair & is a far less dangerous type of "rebellion" compared to what he could be choosing to wrangle over.
2006-11-13 20:42:30 · answer #6 · answered by gettin'real 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is the same way he is 11 not sure how old your son is... Good Luck, I was able to get him to cut his hair after bribing him... Yeha Yeah I know very adult of me... but i gave up!
2006-11-13 20:36:00 · answer #7 · answered by your_mija_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say if he wants his hair long he has to keep it nice and to not come crying to you if ppl make fun of him... hehe if he does not keep up with it then make him get a hair cut
2006-11-13 21:02:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone Mrs.kates_bush, its his hair, his live and he didnt do anything bad....he like it like tht let him keep his sytle...if you interfere too much, he'll get bugged...he will cut it one day...maybe if you stop bugging him, he'll cut it sooner...
JUST LEAVE HIM ALONE....my mom used to do tht, bcs she did tht, i used to challange her, i said to myself whtever and whnever my mom says something which i feel as invasion of privacy i would do the opposite....Sometimes at particular age, we tend to challange people.
Its not like i never listen my mom, i really do respect her and my family alot, but sometimes the rebellious act is a must, its all part of growing age....
2006-11-13 20:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by Jendralus 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm 24 and still do the same as your boy... :) He's right, you know.
2006-11-13 20:38:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋