I've been going out with my g.f for almost 4years. I still love her and she loves me, but there's a problem..actually she is my first girl friend who I really love, and I'm 23 and she's 26.. so I don't think age doesn't make matter. but she should marry by at least 30 and she hope she marry by 28 , I'm not going to marry in early age, and I think If I go out with my g.f continually, I should marry her. I wanna meet another girls , and there're so many hot girls.
I just love my g.f. but I hope I also go with another girl.
How should I do??
2006-11-13 20:28:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is a messy situation god help u
2006-11-13 20:30:47 · answer #1 · answered by ravishr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi mate!
I'm 29 yrs old and i've definately been in your situation when I was younger.....
I think I definately got the right answer 4 u!
Finish with her and go out there and enjoy many other ladies of any age, size or race.... Go for it trust me or you'll regret that for the rest of ur life!
It won't be only fun tho, I must admit, you'll have also some dark moments where you'll feel a bit lonely and miss ur ex...
But still, it got to be done!
I personally went off travelling for a few years, done islands hopping and I've had 1000 amazing experiences, either sexually and not.
U can always leave the door open with ur fiancee and in future who knows? Although its very unlikely she'd take you back after all that mess...
Good luck mate.
Andy
2006-11-14 04:37:26 · answer #2 · answered by andylondon2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a couple of points I really want to make about what you said. I understand that you really love her, but not once did you talk about marrying her for love. You said that you think if you go out continually then you SHOULD marry her. There is no should. Either you want to spend forever with her, and can't imagine life without her in it, or you don't feel the same.
Next thing, you said that you want to meet other girls who are hot. Hmmm, if you are feeling this way, then you aren't in love with your girlfriend and should set her free to find someone who is.
2006-11-14 04:34:07 · answer #3 · answered by chelles_insanity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're thinking about other women and if you don't want to marry too early, then sir, she is not the one for you.
If you go ahead with what SHE wants and not what YOU want then you will be unhappy. If you play her game and then in the end break her heart, both will lose.
If you tell her now that you want to meet other people and don't want to get married so soon then it will save for future heartache, wasted time and pain that will be greater than imaginable at this time.
Good luck, and do what's right for you.
2006-11-14 04:32:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really not a "big problem" at all. You are ready to move on.
Because you have been with this woman for 4 years, you are COMFORTABLE with her - but apparently not in LOVE with her.
Marriage because of association should NEVER be a consideration and you are placing far too much emphasis on that aspect of continuing to see & be with your girlfriend.
Relax. Be honest. Talk to her. Tell her about your preferences. It may be awkward at first, hurt both of you a little, but in the end, both of you may be happier - and closer - for your honesty.
And who knows? SHE may have been wanting to meet other guys!
Thanks for writing and Good Luck to you!
2006-11-14 04:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by GMarieP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never ever marry under pressure or to please someone else.
You can't love her enough to keep your mind and eyes wandering. The age difference between the two of you isn't bad. But, the fact that you want more experience means you arn't ready to fit in to her life plan. You have gone with her for 4 years and you have never said a thing about YOUR plans?????
You either need to totally commit to her, or tell her you need to sow some wild oats before you settle down.
A good relationship means good communication. Sounds like you can't talk to her about your basic needs and plans for life.
Sounds like she says jump and you say .....HOW high?
2006-11-14 04:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you REALLY love someone you should stick with them thru thick and thin Its to easy to hurt someone you love without knowing once that has happened things seem to change (not always to your liking) If u love her MARRY her!! or get on with yourself and sow the wild seed!!
2006-11-14 04:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by pushrod_069 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any how you do not want to get married. so tell her about this. If she also feels like you, no problem then in future, there will not be any problem.
2006-11-14 04:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by R S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can u be like that?
too greedy will lead u possess nothing in the end.
make up ur mind, what u really want.
if u never think of marry her, don't waste her time.
2006-11-14 04:32:16 · answer #9 · answered by winnie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋