my friends thinks her bf is cheating. This is what she told me:
He had like 4 condoms in his draw like 2 months ago. Yesterday she checked back and noticed all 4 are missing. Plus there is a brand new one in there now. (she doesn't want to mention this to him, because she doesn't want to upset him)
2-doesn't the thought that your bf might be cheating hurt, even if he's practicing safe sex with the other woman (if there is one)
2006-11-13 20:01:01 · 21 answers · asked by sweety 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
they were not expired
2006-11-13 20:05:06 · update #1
she doesn't want to be considered as naiive either.
2006-11-13 20:06:00 · update #2
she confronted him b4
2006-11-13 20:23:37 · update #3
Tell her to get rid of him. He's a jerk in any event.
2006-11-13 20:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all no matter how many evidence you see, you can not come up with a FACT that he is cheating and don't try to either what if he gave those condoms to a friend, make an excuse for him, or ask him. Don't putt it as a fact unless your friend finds him in person doing that or he admits. Because doubt is the first step to breaking a happy relationship. If he is cheating believe me she will one day know for sure Einstein couldn't get away with it!
2006-11-14 04:10:04 · answer #2 · answered by kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of blanks to fill-in here.
First of all, I have to scold the girlfriend because of her disrespect for her boyfriend's privacy. Rummaging through his dresser drawer does not give HIM a sense of dignity, now does it? She should ASK HIM DIRECTLY rather than invade his space.
Next - I should think that 4 condoms SHOULD have been moved around in 60 days! What - they are glued to the spot? She took pictures of their location? Get real. She is just plain nosey.
She doesn't want to mention that she noticed a new condom because she really didn't want him to know she snooped through his things... come on now - surely you knew that!
And YES - thoughts of my partner being intimate with someone else WOULD hurt if I knew about it but - I think I would confront him about my fears and/or suspicions and not put our business out in the streets.
I know that many guys lie (hey - I watch Maury Pauvich & Jerry Springer - laughing) but if I feel that he is cheating, perhaps I should examine what I am failing to provide in our relationship instead of trying to find out sneakily IF he is in another relationship and/or WHO the other woman is.
Tell your girlfriend to BE HONEST with her man, OPEN UP to him and CONFIDE in him about her fears. Tell her to ask him DIRECTLY if she is making him completely happy and if not, what she can do to make things right between them.
As for you, I suggest your staying out of the situation - it really does not involve you (or does it?). I realize you are concerned about your friend's well-being and happiness but that is something that only SHE can provide for herself.
The only thing you can offer is your shoulder and ear. Give her that, ok?
She is fortunate to have you as her friend. Thank you for writing!
2006-11-14 04:23:10 · answer #3 · answered by GMarieP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her bf lives with roommates then it is possible a roommate knew about her bf's stash of condoms and possibly replace borrowed ones with a different type, but if the guy lives alone or with your friend, then I would have to assume he is cheating and would suggest your friend dump him. Once a cheater, always a cheater. As much as we would like to think bad people can change, they very very very rarely do.
2006-11-14 04:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no question of 'upseting him'! She's the one being upset and he doesn't even know it. It would be good if she had a conversation with him. Honesty is what keeps a couple together, and maybe its nothing serious, not at all what she is thinking. But if he's cheating she would be better off facing the truth and dealing with it.
2006-11-14 04:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by pegs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmmm if she she accepts a reason other then he's boning someone else, she's very stupid. Not wanting to upset him, yeah she's got a lot of empty space above her shoulders..... Tell her to dump him and move on. Once a cheater always a cheater.
The only date on his condoms was a boned on date. toss out expired condoms. Thats original.
2006-11-14 04:05:04 · answer #6 · answered by George 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious?? I wouldn't care if he got upset if I asked him where the condoms went..She's a better woman than I am, because I would be choking an answer out of him !!!FYI if he isn't using them on you, then he's using t hem on someone Else DUHH !!!
2006-11-14 04:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by chubbie dumplins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the only way she can know for sure is if she catches him or if someone caught him cheating. but for all she knows the condoms could have expired and he got rid of them because they are no use after their used by date. but i think that is highly unlikely.
2006-11-14 04:04:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes he may have borrowed it to his friends, as in that case your friend needs to look for other signs of cheating from the bf, a condom is not the answer to your worries as it may also fall down while he is browsing or searching his other things. further more unless she does not trust him, she may have to see more of little surprises
2006-11-14 04:06:46 · answer #9 · answered by nyango 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is stupid to NOT confront him about this.
Geeeeeeee if he is cheating there is no need to feel the need to be polite.
There isn't anything about cheating that is safe.
2006-11-14 04:21:31 · answer #10 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he is cheating. C'mon now. And yes, the thought of having a boyfriend or girlfriend cheating on you is painful. You'd have to not like them, or not have feelings in order for it not to.
Tell her to dump his ***.
2006-11-14 04:05:00 · answer #11 · answered by bobo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋