My boyfriend and i were together for 6 months and then he dumped me over the summer because life was getting stressful for him and he just felt he needed to be alone so that he could deal with everything that was going on. When school started up again, he asked that i take him back. I agreed to, but after a month he dumped me again because he said he was too busy and he knew if we were together that he wouldnt invest as much as i was and it wouldnt be fair to me. For a while we were still seeing each other and messing around, but recently i've stopped talking to him and seeing him. He hasnt tried to contact me or anything. Do you guys think he feels bad at all for dumping me? I mean this was someone who supposedly cared for me so much and regretted dumping me the first time, and when i asked him if his feelings had changed for me (when he wanted to break up the second time) he said that they hadnt changed but that he was just busy and not in relationship mode. so what do u guys think?
2006-11-13 18:33:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh by the way, we live on the same campus. And we havent seen each other around cuz we both have different schedules. I got to my classes during the day and he goes to his classes at night.
2006-11-13 18:34:38 · update #1
Sounds like he cares about you, but not enough to want to be with you, or tell you the truth, or want you in his life on a consistent basis. Hope you're not too attached to him cuz he's not a keeper. Oh, and "I'm too busy for us" and "I need to be alone" are sugar-coated ways of saying "I'm not that into you". Trust me, you'll use those lines yourself if you haven't already. He gets back with you for short periods so he can tap that again real quick. It's over. I don't mean to be brash, just honest. And pay no attention to what the girls tell you in response to your question, cuz they don't think like a guy.
2006-11-13 18:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How a person feels about another is very tricky. A lot of people don't know how to read their own feelings. The first time he broke up with you he probably felt like it just wasn't right. He may not have known what was even wrong with it - but something was and he needed to move on. What are you going to tell a girl when that is the truth. So you tell her you're stressed out and need to be alone for awhile. And then after the summer's over, you see her again and some of the old feelings come back about how good it was. So you think why not give it a try and see if it can be good again. But then you realize "big mistake". It's not only NOT as good as it used to be, it's worse. And you know the bummer about the whole thing, he didn't do it to hurt you. It's life. Moving in and out of relationships. Trying again and again until two people make a connection that doesn't break. It's not your fault. It's not his fault. Get on with your life and if you see him in passing, say "hello".
2006-11-14 02:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't sit around and wait for him, he may be involved with someone and is afraid to tell you, since you had already had a close relationship, he doesn't want the you to feel bad and does care, but not for a lasting relationship anymore with you. you might as well let this one go, and still be nice to him, he might turn out to be the best friend you will ever have, because you have been close to each other before. you can not hold on to someone that doesn't want the same. be nice and find someone else. you sound as if you want this closeness, there is someone else for you, that will be greatful and you will both be truthful and at peace with yourselves, it might be a little while but good things are worth waiting for, and the next one might be the one that will be your soulmate. do for yourself, and be nice and study in school. no man wants a dumn woman and visa versa. pray
2006-11-14 02:52:31 · answer #3 · answered by granny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably regrets not having the time to make the relationship work. It doesn't sound like he was tired of you or dumping you for someone else.
2006-11-14 02:35:58 · answer #4 · answered by dantheman_028 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It goes back to that saying "He's just not that into you". Regardless of what line he is feeding you. If he cared about you at all he would be with you. So do yourself a favor and just get over the jerk. You don't need that kind of guy in you life.
2006-11-14 02:36:56 · answer #5 · answered by samantha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Guy seems like a flake.
Kinda seems like he likes someone else or something.
Don't let him do that to you again, if he asks you out again say no.
Good luck!
2006-11-14 03:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a diffident situation. But girls too have their dignity. They should keep it up.
2006-11-14 02:39:05 · answer #7 · answered by thinkpose 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he got what he wanted out of you and thats what he wanted.
2006-11-14 02:36:38 · answer #8 · answered by glock509 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋