My fiancee wants to keep in touch with the love of his life, magic lover, who he had when she was separated from her husband. The two of them email, call and see each other with "boundaries" because he is engaged and she is back with her husband. She deos not tell her husband, and he did not tell me, as not to "hurt" either of us. When I found out I went ballistic because he promised 9 months ago that he would never email, call or see her again, because it upset me. Apparently, the husband would be equally upset. This stinks, huh? My fiancee is trying to make me think/feel that I am jealous, insecure and have made an unreasonable demand. I think THEY should get together, although he says that can't be because when he proposed to her she said, "No" and went back to her husband. Why does he need me and her? I think he took her wishes (to stay in contact) over mine to end the "friendship", and that puts me in a less important position. Any thoughts?
2006-11-13 18:15:42 · 5 answers · asked by LuckyEddie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe my anwer would hurt you but honestly he hasnt forgotten her yet and hes using you to have someone (for sex )and I think he loves her but he knows he cant have her so he needs someone to be with him not someone to love.
2006-11-13 18:21:58 · answer #1 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In principal, there's nothing wrong with someone being friends with an ex....in fact, it's a great ending. However, in your case, somethings up. He has gone behind your back and is being very secretive. I can't give *you* any real advice, but I suspect your fiancee needs to spend a week or three without contacting either you or his ex to straighten things out on his own mind. At any rate, I wouldn't commit to marriage with things this fishy.
2006-11-14 03:00:36 · answer #2 · answered by MikEnigma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always a bad idea. What is the only reason to keep in contact with an ex? To bang around with them.
Lay down the law or get in touch with some of your old ex's.
2006-11-14 02:18:31 · answer #3 · answered by FSJD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People should be able to communicate with whomever they want to but if they do it behind someones back, that's another story. I understand why you were mad. Dishonesty is worse than potential jealous feelings that may or may not exist with you. Hang in there!
2006-11-14 02:24:08 · answer #4 · answered by The Drake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, get the ex out of the picture!
2006-11-14 03:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋