If you knew you potentially had cancer....?

Question

Were suffering from tremendous pain and had family and friends notice something just isn't right. Would you confide in them and potentially make them worry themselves sick when it isn't confirmed but there is a 50% chance? Or put on a brave face, pretend all is well, even though, they can clearly see something is very wrong?

Answer 1

DEAR FED UP,
TELL YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS, THAT YOU THINK THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG AND YOU ARE GOING TO THE DR, TO SEE. AND WHEN YOU FIND OUT YOU WILL LET THEM KNOW.
PLEASE DON'T WAIT THERE ARE DIFFERENT STAGES OF CANCER AND IF YOU WAIT THE CANCER WILL SPREAD,
I KNOW THIS BECAUSE MY HUSBAND DIED OF STAGE4 CANCER FROM WAITING TO SEE IF ANYTHING WAS WRONG, BECAUSE OF HOLIDAYS COMING. SO IN JAN 05
HE HAD STAGE4 DIED FEB 10, 06
SO PLEASE GET CHECKED OUT ASAP.
DON'T WAIT.
GOD BLESS YOU

Answer 2

One way to deal with it until any illness is diagnosed properly, it is best not to scaremonger all loved ones...perhaps there is one particular person, friend or family, who you can confide your fears to...Obviously, if you are going through such a worrying time alone, it is bound to be obvious to others around you that all is not right at the moment with you, by finding someone to tallk to and confide in, you may feel a little more at ease yourself. Om the other hand, I know from bitter experience that cancer not only affects the person who has the battle with it but all the family and close friends who have to witness the cancer patients suffering...if you feel it is better out in the open, why not hold a kinda family 'meeting' but first stress that nothing is yet confirmed but these are your fears....are you having tests? When will you get your results?Good luck

Answer 3

I guess maybe I would put on a brave face till I knew for certain. If in fact it turned out to be cancer then I think I would tell my family and closest friends because that's when you really need the support and love of all them. And, I would surely want to be there for the person I loved and make everyday count. The good thing is cancer does not always kill and with treatment you can maybe beat it. The main thing is to never give up.
I realize until we are faced with that situation we can say we would or would not do this and that.....but until its us we can not know for sure how we would react, only speculation.

Answer 4

Personally, I would probably confide in one very close friend (for me, my spouse, but if you're unmarried, then just whoever you're closest to) just so that I could have an outlet and a sounding board for now and then wait until it was a sure thing before worrying everybody else. If they specifically ask, don't lie. Just tell them hey, there's this 50% that it's cancer, and 50% it's not, I don't know yet, but I'll let you know when I do...or something to that effect. If they don't ask specifically, though, I'd hold off until I know.

Answer 5

If they can tell you are in pain. What is the purpose of not telling them.
It is a lot better knowing something then imagining something that might not be. If the 50% turns bad they will be prepared if the 50% turns good you all can celebrate.

Answer 6

I wouldn't until I found out for sure, my thing is I don't want to be a burden on anyone. And myself also living with family with cancer I won't do the chemo myself. I have seen what it has done to the rest of my family

Answer 7

Firstly stop worrying and get your problem checked out by your Dr. If the result is as bad as you think then tell your family and let them support you. I hope your pessimism is misplaced.

Answer 8

i would go get a check up! and if i did have cancer i would tell my family and if i didnt i would say i went to get a check up but everything is great!

Answer 9

if you knew and you caused it - you are a murder and that is long term jail time - i have let a few [many] trusted souls in on everything that has/is happening.