im still very much in love with my ex boyfriend we broke up over a year ago im now in college 2 hours away from home he has a boyfriend and he has a child on the way from one of his previous exes that he dated after me. So i am almost certain we would never have another chance togehter. Hes more likley to get with the mother of his child before me however...He was my first love in everyway he even took my virginity we were together over a year which really is the blink of an eye. Yet, for some reason im stuck on him and the past. Im constantly haunted by memories of him and i and the things we used to do together and things we said. We are still friends and i wish to remain so.I am having trouble coming to terms with the fac tthat hes having a baby with a mutual friend of mine b/c i still love him.I just want to make peace with everything and move on. I feel like i will never find love again... how can i just get over this and be happy in my life again? its been so long please help.
2006-11-13 18:08:26 · 12 answers · asked by bobbo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I like that Tommy Page song 'Time'. Nothing an heal you but it. I guarentee you in 5 years time you'll see this as a shcoolgirl crush, seems impossible to you now but just you wait. Have nothing to do with him, throw everything of his away, no memories...spend time with friends when you're lonely, get them to hook you up. Do things other than think of him.
2006-11-13 18:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by Craiova 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I might propose giving him a problematic task. I've been in an extraordinarily equivalent concern earlier than, and i might have carried out something in any respect to repair it (unfortunately for me although, the girl did not provide me a 2d hazard, and i have regretted it ever due to the fact-Mine concerned medicines, not violence although). If he is genuine, he will do something it's in a heartbeat. I would highly advocate on the VERY minimum to hold the likelihood open. Humans can exchange, but when he ever does it again, go away him and by no means look again. Ensure he is aware of that as good....
2016-08-09 22:31:17 · answer #2 · answered by brandl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was crushed when my boyf broke up with me 2 years ago, so I've been there. But resist the urge to romanticize and idealize him. Don't get stuck on him bc you lost your virginity to him. Harsh but true-most of us would rather not be with that guy, it would be worse to marry him out of guilt and then be stuck in a loveless marriage because you had sex with him. It sounds like there is a lot of complicating factors here. You will find love again, but you need distance from this situation. This guy has his hands full with a baby and the drama with his ex...I moved and started over in a new town to get past my ex, 2 years after him I was ready for a relationship. You may need to cut ties in order to heal. There is a GREAT guy out there for you who will not drag you through all of this drama. For now, busy yourself with your job, school, or friends that don't remind you of him. Go to the gym or do something you've been putting off. Chin up!
2006-11-13 18:16:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you love someone, it does take time to heal. I think it is great that you guys have remained friends. Try not to be too hung up on him, but remain friends. Sometimes a great guy Will stay with a girl just because she is pregnant with his kid. That's the respectable thing to do. But, sometimes depending on the woman, after she has the baby, maybe things won't work out. But YOU will still be there. In the meantime, hang loose, be yourself, be their friend, have fun and try not to waste your whole life waiting to see what happens. Who knows, maybe you'll find Mr. Right in the process. I know it hurts, but if he chooses to be with her, you can't blame him. It is only the respectable thing to do.
2006-11-13 18:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
what you need to do is know that life goes on. it doesn't stop for you and things don't go the way you want them to. what you to do is come to terms and come to terms quick with the fact that you guys will never be together. if he wanted to get back with you, he would have done so a long time ago. hell, you wouldn't have broken up in the first place. love is a strong word, a very strong word. so before you go using it so loosely, make sure you know what it means and apply it properly. not to question your love for him, but i have found that women in today's society don't know what it is but swear they love the guy that cheated on them with every single one of her friends and every girl he has ever met. so please for your own sake, re-evalute that. realize the wonderful person you are and the good things you deserve and act on that. go out, have fun, meet some one, love and love again. don't let that guy put a damper on your life or your happiness either. so let him go. i know it can be hard. i was in the same situation as you but then i realized it wasn't healthy for me so i made myself get over him, and now i am with someone that like and they like me and things are going good. i haven't even given old dude a thought until now. know its his lose not yours.
2006-11-13 18:18:27 · answer #5 · answered by Kokoa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl, get over yourself. you think you're the first person to ever go through this kind of pain? Many people like myself have gone through it and came out unscathed on the other side, happier and ready to keep on living. Time heals all wounds,
2006-11-13 18:14:55 · answer #6 · answered by jericho_sithlord 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you feel sad about it now, but just give yourself time
For it's time to move on, Believe me there will be someone out there that is just for you and no-one else. Just take your time.
remember Jesus loves you
2006-11-13 18:20:02 · answer #7 · answered by jan d 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you will never forget your first love, sorry.
I can tell you when and where with who about my first time, and that happened 30yrs ago.
Time does help. try to think of the bad times you had with him instead of focusing on all the good times.
Good Luck, you will be fine
2006-11-13 18:14:55 · answer #8 · answered by jawtar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It usually hapens in life dear. You will eventually come around when you find sumbody else and that will happen soon. If he can go with somebody elae y cant you? Think bout that
2006-11-13 18:16:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Occupy your time with friends, movies(not romance) any activity.
2006-11-13 18:16:37 · answer #10 · answered by albeewj3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋