okay. so right now i am 22, dating a great guy yet somehow along the way we boh have changed which is human. we go to the same school/university and are each other's best friend and support. so what is the problem you ask, right? well, lately for some reason i am feeling so distant towards my bf, like sometimes it does not feel the same, i cannot pin point what it is but it is making me drift further and further from him and his love for the last 2 days. he puts so much of everything into this relationship and for me to act like this is not right! i feel as though there is a gap between us and it just keeps on filling until one day we will have nothing more to talk about! also, lately i have been taking everything very serious, more than before and i cannot take a joke for some reason! i have 4 weeks of school left and alot of stress, my bf is going thru some stuff of his own so i do not wan to make his life a pain and therefore i do not open up to him if i have a bad day or not! help
2006-11-13 17:56:25 · 10 answers · asked by icycrissy27blue 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's all a part of life, friend... Changing & Growing.
Seems like you have a lot of things happening in your life right now; school, a relationship, and personal priorities.
Think of it this way: You have a meal on your plate consisting of meat and 2 side dishes. Do you eat all the meat and then the side dishes? Many people don't. Most sample a bit of each and wash it down with a beverage. Life is like that, too!
We "sample" different experiences at different phases of our lives and enjoy each of them - until they're gone. You have a wonderful friendship with this guy; surely one to savor. But is it the main mean (real love) or an appetizer (a sample of better things to come)?
Only the two of you will know - in time.
He is apparently undergoing the same changes right now. Just keep your friendship line open and things will flow as they should.
Sometimes, sweethearts become lifelong partners but many times, they don't. Just be there for him as his friend, relax, and see what happens. It appears that right now, love has to take a back seat for some of the other priorities both of you have got going on in each of your lives. Don't consider them as a deterioration of your love but, merely a distraction from it...
Keep being honest and open with yourself and your boyfriend. In the end, it will solidify what truly forms the foundation of your relationship with each other.
Thanks for writing, my friend. Good Luck to both of you!
2006-11-13 18:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by GMarieP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your being under a great deal of stress probably has a lot to do with how you are feeling right now. You shouldn't try to evaluate this situation or say anything to your boyfriend until a week or two after you are done with school. If the problem is from the extra stress that you are under it will go away once the stress has dissipated. If it's not because of the additional stress it will still be there after school lets out. By waiting you can know for sure if there really is a serious problem or you are just going over a "bump" right now. Good Luck!
2006-11-14 02:04:19 · answer #2 · answered by BetteBoop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats clear you havent found this person the right one and its not easy to just ignore him and let him go ..So I think you should have to show that you dont feel like before and he'll know after sometimes .You never know maybe he feels the same and some distance will prove it to both of you whether there is still a chemistry between you two or not.You can remain friend with him .It will cause no pain for him and you.
Well an advice ..never tell someone that you love him before being sure.
2006-11-14 02:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same thing happened to me. you've come to a point where there just isn't spice anymore. You still love him, but in that best-friend kind of way, not a romantic lover kind of way. Just be honest with him. If you truly know each other so well he would have already sensed something is wrong, or he'll at least be glad you told him whats up. It's worse in the long run to string him along, it's harder on both of you and can end up ruining a perfectly good friendship as well as the romance. Might as well try and hold on to one while you can. i hope this helps. Good Luck.
2006-11-14 02:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by your welcome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, only two days you've felt like this? Give it some time. Uni is a pretty trying time to be in a relationship.
You feel going through all this is worth it for YOU? Then stick with it.
If it's just about trying to be 'fair' to him, don't waste your time. Be honest about how you feel. Someone always gets hurt in a relationship ending. But, it's better to cut out a little bit of cancer than to wait for it to spread and have to lose a whole leg.
Do what's best for you.
2006-11-14 02:00:59 · answer #5 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is ever changing, perhaps the spark isn't there because things got to routine. on top of finishing school carrer,job hunting that's alot of stress on a relationship, perhaps a break see how it goes that at least a final breakup or whatever happens won't have so drama be honest and talk about it good luck
2006-11-14 02:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by robert s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, a lot of people regret being in steady relationships in their youth because they felt they could have experienced more of life and that freedom. You're probably wanting some of that. Why not tell him you guys both need some space and go have fun on your own....if circumstances have both changed you then so it be.
2006-11-14 02:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by Craiova 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you two have too much incommon and are living in eachothers pockets put a little space there between you and you will see that you will miss him but being so close you have no time to miss eachother and that can destroy even the best relationships sometimes you just have to get new interests
2006-11-14 02:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by punkin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek advice from a christian counselor....
2006-11-14 01:58:20 · answer #9 · answered by DonnyD 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
leave him be.
2006-11-14 01:59:08 · answer #10 · answered by blingding 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋