ive been married for 8 months and i feel like im just through my husbands dirty he cant never do anything right he doesnt care about me he doesnt do anything nice or generous for me i just feel like im tired i feel like i dont want to ever be married or date anyone period i feel like i just want to divorce my husband and just be by myself for the rest of my life have you ever felt this way? what should i do?
2006-11-13 17:53:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone feels that way sometimes. It's especially common early in marriage when the "honeymoon period" is over.
I doubt that he turned into a totally different person in the eight months that you've been married. If he was a good person when you decided to marry him, he's probably still a good person now. It's probably just that he's gotten a little more lazy about the relationship now that you're "settled" together, and it sounds like you've gotten a lot more stressed now that it's starting to settle in that you're looking at the person you're supposed to spend the rest of your life with.
Just from the fact that you're saying you never want to date anyone for the rest of your life, you can see this is more about an emotional feeling than a realistic assessment of what you want or what you need to do. Feelings constantly wax and wane. Whether your marriage works or not comes down to what you decide to do, not what you feel. If you're committed, you accept that it's not always fun or easy and you work through the hard parts. Believe me, it's not going to be any different with a different guy. Not for more than the first few months, anyway.
You have to communicate with each other about what's bothering you and what you need. Communication and compromise are the bottom line in any relationship.
2006-11-13 18:09:39 · answer #1 · answered by EQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I am sorry you feel this way, but I can tell you that I have felt that way too! I have been married for almost 3 years and I have actually felt like that a couple of times. What I usually do is try to talk to my husband and just be blunt and tell him how you are feeling. He could be feeling some of the same things. And remind yourself that you chose to be with him out of all the other male fish in the sea and ALL marriages take constant and careful work and maintenance every day from both of you. If pondering on those points don't help then Pack up an overnight or weekender bag and go somewhere that you can relax and enjoy yourself and take a break from him to remind yourself who you are. Then you will appreciate him more when the weekend is done!
2006-11-14 02:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by cowgirlzpnw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All married couple I know go hrough this at ome point in the marriage, even more than once, includng myself..but it passes eventually.
Communication about how you feel and willingness to make it work and make the changes to make it work from both the husband and wife have to be desired for it to change.
This will not happen overnight, unfortunatly.
I feel for you and understand how you feel right now.
Make sure you make him realize how you feel and what is going on before you just opt for dicorce. He might have some issues or feelings he needs to work on alone and you might have some also..but make sure you work on most of the issues as a couple..be supportive and be there for each other.
Good luck, I hope your situation works out like mine has and like many others I know have.
2006-11-14 02:01:05 · answer #3 · answered by The Chesire Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that, but it is time to cut your loses and get to heck out NOW!
do not get a divorce, get an annulment..that way it is like never being married in the first place ..that way you can get married again in church if you want to...and all paper work in the future will show you never were married..isn't that cool
but you have to go hire a the best attorney to get this done right, you do not want any mess ups
good luck
get out NOW ! ! !
good luck
smile
2006-11-15 17:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
*8 months only. You seems to respect your emotions .Try to feel what your dear husband feel alike. Be positive.Feel him your best freind and treat him like that. Be full of love . Adjust every moment and fully surrender when indulge in sex. Think you are the most beautiful woman and your husband to be most handsome person and which every pair really is...love and love ....love...love donot try any more , Forget about alternatives , there is no alternative to selfishness but whole world is yours if you have a praise for it.
2006-11-14 02:03:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
8 months hey? Wow, you're off to a great start. If you already hate him, you prolly shouldn't have married him in the first place. LEAVE!! What's the point in staying when you're miserable?
2006-11-14 01:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by marcia_mahoya 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you tried talking to him about it? You havent been married very long and he may not even know hes acting this way or that you are upset.
2006-11-14 01:55:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM...he doesnt do anything for you anyomre...maybe you married him toooo soon in the first place...good luck
2006-11-14 01:55:44 · answer #8 · answered by free-spirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sad but true ,,yes we all get like that at times,,, about one thing or another in the marriage. , only you know what to do
2006-11-14 01:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by Rooster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all your other questions you mention he is your boyfriend...but regardless, I would suggest as the 100 other people have that you leave this guy too.
2006-11-14 02:00:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋