Is Our Children Safe?

Question

I taught my children all that i can possibly think what to do if someone comes up and ask her if she would like some candy or that mommy and daddy said for them to pick her up what to do. But is that good enough she is only six and you see this happening more and more about kid nappings. So what i'm asking you is do you think it is a good idea to speak with her school staff just to see how gullible our kids our. Have someone to that the school knows to walk up to the kids and ask them if they would like to come with he/she and see what the results would be.
I am the type of mother who wants my child safe just as anyone else is this a good question for schools

Answer 1

I am impressed by the child phones that are now offered. They give children a one button saftey net. And they allow you to know exactly where your child is.

You ought to look into these.

Answer 2

A GOOD TEST!!!

Ask a friend that your child DOESN'T know to try to pick her up from school, using an unfamiliar alternate route.

ANOTHER GOOD TEST!!!

Tell a trustworthy twelve-year-old (again, one your child DOESN'T know) to walk your child home, using an unfamiliar alternate route.

On both of the tests, if you so choose, follow the certain rules:

1) The stranger-in-acting must arrive before you.*
2) You come 3-5 minutes late, or the stranger-in-acting meets the kid at the door of the school.*
3) Wait 15 minutes longer than you would on any other day, then go home.**
4) In the event of a failure, speak not to the child during the test; they may remember halfway through.***

Any one of these tests should tell you if your child is paying attention to you when you speak of Stranger Danger. And since the finishing point to all tests is your home, the children will be safe upon arrival.





* If the child rides the bus, then the Stranger-in-acting must meet the child at the door.
** Invalid if the child is a pedestrian. If the child is a pedestrian, then wait 20 minutes longer at home for the child to arrive.
*** Invalid if you don't pick them up from school.
May not work if there are multiple siblings at the same school.

Answer 3

I agree with keeping you child safe. However, it is YOU at this age, and all the people that care for your children that needs to keep her safe. If she is only 6, she should never be left alone. Up until she is old enough to go out on her own should she "HAVE" to know some things. I am not saying that you cannot talk to your child about the dangers of the outside world, but dont talk too much!.. She may be scared of the world. Make it short, brief and to the point. As far as the school doing something, I doubt that they would do the things that you are describing. The most that I think that they would do it maybe an assembly on the safetys of children. However, I dont think that 6 year olds would go to something like that. I know in my school the students that are old enough go, and the younger ones dont. In closing, Keep your kids near you. Discuss very briefly what to do. but it is YOUR job to keep them safe till they are old enough to go on their own somewhere. You are a great parent I can tell.. keep it up, and I am sure that your child will be just fine!! Good Luck

Answer 4

I did all the talking and the teaching anyone could do, but I have a story I've told on here before:

My sister and I were visiting our mother. We have three kids each, and they were all under twelve at the time. All six kids were right out on the front grass playing. My sister had done all the talking and teaching as well. Suddenly, the bunch of them came in and had papers from a real estate agency. Whoever had the papers said, "Here". Someone asked them, "Where did you get these?" One kid said, "From the lady and man in the car." An adult said something like, "You talked to people in a car?" . One of the children said enthusiastically, "They were nice."

Between having this experience myself with all six of those kids and none of them telling the others to stay away from the car and seeing on television kids and even college girls who "forget the safety rules" when approached by someone who seems nice; I have come to realize that children are not emotionally capable of remembering those rules when it counts.

That is what I think adults need to realize. My kids and my sister's kids were all very emotionally mature and reasonable kids when they were little; and they're all plenty intelligent.

After what happened with our kids I now realize that young kids shouldn't be out near the street playing (the neighborhood is a quiet, suburban, street with few cars). We should have told them to stay out in back of the house. (Then again, someone could have come through the woods; but one on-foot individual against six kids may not have had quite the opportunity.)

Its a challenge to know how to keep them safe and yet let them play out in places like their own grandmother's suburban neighborhood.

Answer 5

Come up with a safe word. Tell your daughter that if she can only go with someone that knows the safe word. It should be a word that no one else knows just mom dad and her. That way if grandma or who ever has to pick her up then they can say mommy told me to pick you up and the safe word is ... If the safe word is used by someone other then the 3 of you you should change it. It can be as simple as the word orange. We have a safe word with our kids ages 5 and 9.
If you really feel its necessary and would make you feel better to talk to the staff at her school then do so. Its better to be safe then sorry.

Answer 6

As President Bush once said We are safer then we were before 9/11 but we are not yet safe. There is no way for your children to be 100% completely safe but if you teach them what to do in a bad situation they should be a lot safer. You are not safe ..... from grammar errors in your question.

Answer 7

If the child knows the person at the school odds are they would go with them. If you really want to know have a friend of yours do it that your child doesn't really know. But different things happen in different situations so just because they don't go this time doesn't mean they won't next time.

Answer 8

Most schools in the U.S. nowadays take the names of everyone who are allowed to pick up children from school when the child enrolls in school. The schools do not waiver from the lists unless instructed to by the parents themselves. In cases of divorce it is even quite common for the custodial parent to instruct the school to NOT release the children to the non-custodial parent and the schools by law must follow that instruction. So, unless someone is on your "safe to pick up list" the school will not release your children to just anybody. The problems arise when children who walk or ride their bike's home are picked up by strangers.

Answer 9

They should have a thing about who should pick your child from school my daughter people have to be on a list and they have to show ID and the teachers have to meet the people i have nominated on her form...

Answer 10

I completely agree with you! I think that is a great idea! Run it by the school!