I'm nineteen, and my boyfriend is twenty-six. When we first started living together, we had sex every night. Now, ten months later, we hardly ever have sex. I get sex about once every two or three weeks. He works very late in the evening, and comes home very tired. As well, he's on medicine that makes it difficult to get it up. I give him blow-jobs every few nights, and he rolls over and falls asleep. I have a very high sex-drive. Now that I never get sex, it's hard to think of anything else. I'm distracted all the time, and dream of sex all night. Whenever I bring up my desires to him, he says he's tired, and apologizes profusely. I could sleep with other people, because we are in an open relationship, but it would make him sad if I ran off and screwed a bunch of boys just because he works late hours. I get propositioned often, and it's getting increasingly tempting.
Should I keep ****-buddies? Wait for him to get rested? Try to continue on with my life terminally horny?
2006-11-13 17:51:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We're in an open relationship- I am allowed to see other people, if I want. He wouldn't consider it cheating; he's said so himself. I just don't feel like doing it right now.
2006-11-13 17:59:57 · update #1
first think you gotta check if the medicine he takes decreases his sexual desire,it happens.
second sex is not everything if you love him that's all that matters..
third we men are very insecure we don't reveal much when it comes to sex and he must be scared he wouldn't be able to complete the job.
fourth ..medicine and the job by the end of the day makes you extremely tired ..i telling you all this because its all similar to a problem my father has.. but im only 19.
2006-11-13 18:07:34 · answer #1 · answered by suren D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could always get a few toys to have around the house. My boyfriend works long hours 1st shift 6 days a week. I work nights 4 days a week....we have a crazy schedule. But by the time we do get time together it is totally worth the wait. I take care of business myself until then. You would be surprised how it works to cover a few days until you can get your man to yourself.
If you are truly thinking about cheating...then you don't love him like you think you do. It may take you a while to realize it, but it will hit you sooner than later. You are young, and may need to get out and date around....maybe not be so serious right off.
2006-11-13 17:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't go f*** other people. It will screw up your relationship for sure. Might as well leave him now. Work on this relationship till you find it is is worth working on. You say he is on medicine. How long does he have to be on it? If the answer is for the rest of his life - then move on. If for a year - well, get yourself a mechanical toy. Chances are, he is emotioanlly not well nowdays, and it is not necessarily your fault or something you can change.
2006-11-13 17:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you answered your own question in the lead-in statement, I assume you look the same, act the same towards him as you did when you were screwing like minks and keep yourself in tantalizing order; so I'll venture a guess at it being the "Old shoe syndrome". He's either gotten comfortable with your being there and he's not terribly turned-on by you anymore, or you need to take your fat azz to the gym and upgrade your attitude!
2006-11-13 17:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him... expose your problems and needs in front of him.... I think you should give him sometime...or you two must go for a romantic weekend out somewhere.
2006-11-13 17:56:19 · answer #5 · answered by Wild_Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change ur schedule for sex. Do it after a good nap in stead of a prenap affair. I do not understand blow-jobs. If it is oral or masturbation please stop doing it.
2006-11-13 17:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you're not ready for a boyfriend...
maybe you need a vibrator....
and no, don't arbitrarily screw other people.... that's the definition of a *s l u t*. and guys (well, mature guys anyway) don't like that.
And yes, this is a guy replying.
2006-11-13 17:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by mysticaura29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attack him in the mourning when he's rested. I speak from experience,
2006-11-13 17:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by David S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say you get yourself a **** friend, like me for example, lol and take care of your wants, desires, and simple needs..... go for it girl....
2006-11-13 17:56:04 · answer #9 · answered by rock n roll all night.. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you're 19... nuff said GO FCUK AROUND GIRL
here's my number 510-235-2456
2006-11-13 17:54:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋