and i'm currently working overseas is there a need for me to put everything down here and fly back ? not that i'm heartless or anything but its more like what can i do even if i go back ?
2006-11-13 17:32:34 · 6 answers · asked by igottanoe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sorry to hear about your grandfather. I have no grandparents left on either side.
In answer to your question, it depends! Not all grandparents are equal. Some people barely know (or may not have even met) their grandparents. Others are extremely close to ( & may even have been raised by) their grandparents.
If you were extremely close to your grandfather, I can see that you might want to go. If you weren't close at all, you wouldn't be expected to go. It is entirely up to you whether you go or not. Do what feels right to you. Don't go because you feel guilted into it. As you say there's nothing you can really "do" other than pay your respects & be there for the rest of your family. Seeing as you are overseas I would think the family would be understanding if you didn't make it. It would be expensive to fly back & depending on your situation may not be financially feasible?
Follow your heart. You can pay respect to your grandfather in your own way. Even if you don't fly back for the funeral, you can do something thoughtful for your mother (a letter, a card etc).
Whatever you decide, it's your decision. These things come up. You are not heartless for being pragmatic about it. The only person you need to answer to is yourself. So rather than ask what we think, what do you think you should do?
2006-11-14 20:15:00 · answer #1 · answered by amp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you feel about it.
We live overseas and were here only a month and my grandfather passed, it was very hard on me and my family.
I would have given anything to be there....
Closure and being there for my grandmother.
However I do believe that things happen for a reason and maybe he waited for me to be over here...knowing I couldn't have taken it.
Seek what your heart tells you to do.
If you choose not to attend>>
I would suggest sending a Card to your Mom and/or grandmother is she still alive and flowers would also be a kind thought for the funeral.
Best wishes
2006-11-13 19:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.. first off I am sorry.. hope your mom will be fine.. sometimes we just cant be there.. your grandfather I am sure understands that.. he will always be there with you.. and surely your mother understands that it is hard to make it home for such a short stay.. when you do finally get home.. take your mother to the grave site and you two can reflex your memories together of your grandfather together then.. good luck..
2006-11-13 17:40:35 · answer #3 · answered by annieapple_1959 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is as much need as you feel. if you think that you need to be there to be supportive to your mother and the rest of your family as well as say your own good byes, then you should go. but if you feel no obligation to your family, then you stay overseas and do what you need to do. life works in that funny way. your family will understand no matter which route you take but i tell you take the route you really feel in your heart and make that decision for yourself and no one else.
2006-11-13 17:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by Kokoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only best thing u can do is be there for your mum because all she needs right now is the people close to her for all the support she can get xxx xx
2006-11-13 21:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be supportive for the rest of your family.
2006-11-13 17:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋