Now have been told by my close friend that he loves me. After I asked him what are his feelings toward me. well after he told me that he loves me, i asked him why? he never responded. I kept asking him, the last time i asked, he said to just forget that he said it so i can chill out. Well after that he also told me that being that we are long distant, a relationship can't happened. So i asked, so you rather be friends? He said friends. Now he hasn't return any of my phone calls or text messages. and when he does return them, he always says everytime that he is busy and that he will call me back. But he never does. Why is he acting like that if he said that he loves me? And what should i do?
2006-11-13 17:23:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he has found someone close and is enjoying the physical contact. most guys only tell you they love you so you will give them something.
you obviously didn't give him what he wanted even after he said he loved you so he found it with someone else
2006-11-13 17:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by Scott G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend might have been going through something and you were the only one that he could turn to, so he said what he did probably to try and make himself feel better, and because your his friend he thought for sure you would be the one to tell him what he wanted to hear... so what you should do is call him back and tell him that you love him too, BUT its not what he is thinking. That the love you have for him is the love of a friend and the brother that you've never had... and if he is a true friend he would return your call and talk to you about it. He might not call back at First because he might be scared, and maybe a little embarrassed but, in the end he'll realize that he should do whats right and call... And don't ask him again why he loves you, just appreciate it.
2006-11-14 01:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by chopsticksnworms 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he expected the same reaction from you to him. And you questioned it rather than going with it, so now he probably feels embarrased by what he admited. If you dont feel the same then you tell him this but make your self available as a friend. If you do feel like this then you need to tell him PRONTO..and make him understand that you yourself were wondering how to break the ice. This puts him in a more comfortbale situation. GOOD LUCK...
2006-11-14 01:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kinda depends on when he told you. Were you out drinking? Talking on the phone? Maybe he's giving you the cold shoulder because of your response. You didn't say it back. You questioned him. Men are more insecure than women when it comes to feelings. They don't like to throw themselves out there. And they don't like rejection. Maybe you need to have a heart to heart . Be very honest and sincere. Don't question him. Tell him how you feel. That is, if you want to be with him. If you don't-then don't go there. Just let it go.
2006-11-14 01:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by Melody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you freaked him out. I think you shouldn' t have asked him " Why you love me?" so suddenly, so quickly. It would have been better if you had taken some time to think about it. May be then his reaction wouldn't have been like this. Well, it's not too late. Try to persuade him, meet him, talk to him and sort out the matter with him. Tell him that you need to meet him urgently.
2006-11-14 01:30:25 · answer #5 · answered by Wild_Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd of told you to get lost. Why didn't you just accept what he said at face value? Why did you feel compelled to keep bugging him about "why????"
I'm sure it gave him an insight into what a relationship would be, such as that you would question everything he would do and say.
He's not dummy, that's for sure.
As for what you do, you just leave him alone.
2006-11-14 01:29:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm..he might be confused himself as to how he feel? that would depend on how u asked him how he felt towards you? Maybe if u keep asking or texting him, u would only push him further away, so maybe give both urself some time off, as well as for him to sort out his feelings before u contact him again?
who know, he might be the one looking for you first! =)
2006-11-14 01:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by watch J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking why freaks them out.Even w/ grown men. They don't necessarily know why; how to express why. You were wrong in pushing the issue though.
2006-11-14 01:27:22 · answer #8 · answered by uknowme 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
LOVE is beyond questioning. It is just a feeling. You only buried his feelings. So he is avoiding you now. If you really love him, be frank and apologize for your mistake.
2006-11-14 01:30:26 · answer #9 · answered by thinkpose 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mabey because you were acting like a nagging *****, get ova it, you blow it girl because you wouldn't get of his back, now GET OVA IT!!!!!!!!!! you know you are the type of people that give us girls a bad name for being nagging, when really its just the losers like you!!!!!
2006-11-14 01:29:18 · answer #10 · answered by BubbleyChick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋