Took me a lot of courage to write this, so please be kind. I know what they say about dating the boss. I haven't made a move or breathed a word to anyone. I wish I could fully explain in a few sentences how confused I am. I have a serious thing for my boss. I have for almost a year. I've tried dating other people. I've tried ignoring the whole thing. I've tried concentrating on other parts of my life. But it's driving me nuts.
Problem is, I love my job. I love the people I work with and what I do. But my stupid heart has set itself on the single most dangerous person it could find, and it seems like it won't take no for an answer. He's ignored it like I have tried to, but there is no mistaking the energy between us when we're in a room together. People at work have been constantly trying to push us together. I resist because I know all things eventually must end - or change- and I don't want to end any of it badly.
Help?
2006-11-13 17:19:03 · 5 answers · asked by SBLady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, switching departments isn't an option. It's a small business. I think from the early responses, the best thing to do might be to talk it over with him and find a new job. No matter what happens, that keeps things on the up and up. That puts him in the lurch though, he is the owner and I run all aspects of multiple locations for him. Wow, I hate to do that to him.
2006-11-14 16:31:00 · update #1
A thing with the boss always ends badly. Coworkers will be jealous of the close relationship thinking you are favored. If/when things go bad with the relationship you will probably lose that job you love.
2006-11-13 17:27:10 · answer #1 · answered by chillsister 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The judgment is yours, but know that there are sever risks if you handle this badly....
First don't talk to him about this at work, find some other place to talk and don't ever bring anything you do or talk about into work... I am getting the sense from your style of writing that you have no urge to resist the attraction between you two.
Find some neutral place to talk to him about this after work. When you talk to him, give him a gracious way out of the conversation if he get uncomfortable.
If things go well schedule time to get to know him better but have these discussions when he is not on the clock. All things don't necessarily end (in a lifetime), I have been with my wife for the past 26 years)
2006-11-14 01:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by jryanwinterhaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both feel a connection then go for it, but remember what bad can come out of it. If it doesnt work look at it like you made a mistake and learned your lesson. But if you feel that passionate about someone dont let it pass.
2006-11-14 01:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by minz_8104 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both are "in love" or deeply attracted to eachother, you can't ignore it. Maybe you can switch departments. As long as he isn't married, I see no problem with this, oh yah and you must be single as well. :)
2006-11-14 01:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is rare, jobs are not.
Has he come after you? If you gave him the green light, would he? Or is this all on your side?
Tread carefully.
2006-11-14 01:54:21 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋