m a 20 years old gal.my aim was to becom an airhostes but sacrifised my aimbition coz of my bf.he said no n was against it.second thing is dat i was getting job in converges,but he told me dats it is a call centre so i shudnt work der,i said ok.lastly wen i told him dat i have submitted my resume in british airways to work as ground hostess he said no.he says if i work in anyone of dese field as mentioned above he will leave me.plss help me.guide me.
2006-11-13 17:15:21 · 14 answers · asked by saakhikapoor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why is he so strongly against it? This is your life. I have always thought that the girls who followed their boyfriends to a different college were dumb because chances of that relationship to last are very very slim. But then there are the ones that do work out. You have to figure out if this is really the guy you love because if you are willing to change your life and ambitions for this guy then you have to be willing to die for him and care for him no matter what. You should have a conversation about why he is so against it, no yelling/stay calm. You need to tell him that you love him but you have always wanted to do this and he should be supportive. If there is a really good reason why you shouldn't work there and you love him then you should listen otherwise you should take the job and he might leave you for a bit but come back because he misses you
2006-11-13 17:37:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay say you do as he wishes and let your dreams go. You end up marrying him and the marriage doesn't work out. How would you feel then?
Remember your not even married and he is asking a lot out of you. There is no gareentee he will even marry you.
If he truely loved you he would respect the fact that you want to work. It's not like your prostituting your self. Your going to make an honest living doing something you enjoy. If he really loved you he would understand.
2006-11-14 03:00:36 · answer #2 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 20 yrs. old have a career in something you want to do. DONT let that controlled freak jerk boyfriend ruin it for you not worth it trust me. I regret doing that cuz my ex told me (from when I was nineteen wanted to join army)" NO". now I am 35.
Let him go dont let him control your life like that apparently doesnt love you if he cant support your decision.
I wish I would have listened to others back then could be retired from there soon if I would of just went.
2006-11-14 01:27:22 · answer #3 · answered by smiley_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 20 years old and you have your whole life ahead of you. You need to think about you and your future and quit letting this control freak have charge over your life. He is only holding you back. Live your dreams while you can.
2006-11-14 01:19:40 · answer #4 · answered by jare bare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, so tell us again whose life you're living? If you let a bf control this much, how much would you let a husband control.
Grow up and be your own person. Do what makes YOU happy. You'll be more successful at it then if you do only what someone else "allows" you to do.
2006-11-14 01:19:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 20 no matter how much you think you love him , you wont marry him, in 10 years time you will have trouble remembering his name and in 5 you wont remeber why you went out with such moron
jobs and career are for eveer
what he is afraid of is you will meet a better man as a hotess and he is right, persue your dream beeauty and slimness fades go for it
2006-11-14 01:18:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety dont ever get involved in a relationship where your partner wont let you do things you want to do especially persue a career...guys come and go and guys also makes females unhappy..so if you want to be happy in life and not miserable and dont want to leave him..talk to him try to work out some agreement...but you are young you will find someone else
2006-11-14 01:20:15 · answer #7 · answered by last3member2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds controlling and really insecure. His love for you probably doesn't run very deep. Talk to him and ask what kinds of jobs he thinks would be good. I would be really careful, threatening to leave over a job is quite immature.
2006-11-14 01:18:29 · answer #8 · answered by dantheman_028 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You people and always wanting strangers to "guide you". Wanting dates and the stars to "guide you". No wonder you people have so much trouble. You can't make a decision on your own. If it was ME, I would tell him to eff off and work wherever the hell I wanted. But hey, that's just me.
2006-11-14 01:19:25 · answer #9 · answered by Shadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and work where you want ! he sounds like a control freak and your life will be a living He**. Find a new boyfriend.
2006-11-14 01:17:35 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋