well uhh we have been goin out for 3 in a half months and he claims he wants to marry me and he loves me and i belive him and we havent has sex or anything i just want to know if u think we r ready
2006-11-13 17:00:48 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No no no. Wait.
2006-11-13 17:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
from the way u sound you guys are in puppy love. but i know that u really don`t want to hear other peoples advice about the fact that u all are just too young, but they are right. you are only 14 he`s 16 do u really want to spend the rest of your life taking care of a baby,or two at an early age? children are the most beautiful gift given by God on earth. but to me there is a certain time in your life that your finance will be straight and you will be stable enough to get married and start a family. the last thing u would want to do is in 10 or 15 years is not go to college or work your way up in the executive world making $40,000-$90,000 per year and they come out with a 2 seater convertible that u truly would want (like the Lexus SC coupe or Cadillac XLR)and u end up with the DODGE CARAVAN mini-van special edition with a whole football team as your family, especially if u guys are starting out this young there are going to be a love for the rest of the years to come if u know what i mean(smile) my point is think of your future and if u would want this boyfriend of yours for the REST OF YOU LIFE it is you choice though good luck!
2006-11-13 20:08:50 · answer #2 · answered by ALL4ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noways!!!! I may be dissapointing you by telling you that you're taking this relationship way too serious, and if you go ahead with what you think you're ready for, this relationship will probably end soon, I've been there when I think I love him too and I believe him when he tells me he wants to be with me forever, well they all seem to say that at your age but they eventually grow out of it. Your still very young and you have a whole life ahead of you, enjoy your life while your still young don't rush into anything like this too soon, and another thing, you might think you know him but you've only been with him for 3 months, thats not long enough to get serious and plus you hardly know him, you might think you do, but theres no ways you know someone completely in just 3 months. Trust me and take it slow!!!
2006-11-13 17:09:22 · answer #3 · answered by Sheepless 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure it's a whole 3 1/2 months? that could make a difference.
Yeah he wants to marry you, that the oldest line in the book for getting in some gullable girls pants.
At 14 try keeping your legs closed. And learn about life before destroying one by bringing it into this world to 2 parents that don't have a pot to piss in and have no clue about anything.
2006-11-13 17:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by George 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u CRAZY!!! you could be going out since you were 12 but that doesnt mean ****! 14 and 16 is WAY too young! If you have a baby now you are condeming yourself to a lower-class lifestyle for the rest of your life! Theres so much more for you that having a baby will ruin! theres still senior year of high school and college! this guy wants to have sex! thats it! dont ruin ure life!
2006-11-13 17:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU GUYS ARE DEFINITELY NOT READY.
He is just saying because HE WANTS TO GET INTO YOUR PANTS. After he gets you pregnant, there is a really high chance that he will leave the kid with you and you will never see him again. You really need to leave that loser and concentrate in school and graduate from college. With that college degree, you will be able to provide better things for your future family. I guarantee you that if you stick with him and get pregnant now, YOU WILL SEVERELY REGRET IT LATER. I also guarantee you that you will find a better man after you graduate from college. YOU MUST END THIS RELATIONSHIP AND FOCUS ON YOUR SCHOOL WORK. THAT IS THE BEST THING FOR YOU TO DO. YOU CAN ALWAYS CREATE NEW LIFE (and be able to provide better things) when you get older and after you get a college degree and there is a high chance that you will meet your perfect guy in college.
Leaving your current boyfriend, focusing on school and graduating from an university is the best thing for you.
OH AND FYI....2 minors having sex is called STATUTORY RAPE EVEN IF BOTH GIVE CONSENT. ITS A CRIME IN CALIFORNIA AND ITS PROBABLY A CRIME IN EVERY OTHER STATE.
2006-11-13 17:23:44 · answer #6 · answered by lildude211us 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 21, he was 23 and we had been married 9 months before we got pregnant. he had graduated from college and everything. If we had not been married, I would have never made it through the pregnancy. Being pregnant can be really hard, I threw up everyday, everything I ate for 7 months!! Wait until you are older. It can be REALLY difficult. Plus, it destroys your body! You get all stretched out and flabby.
2006-11-13 17:05:02 · answer #7 · answered by Luckiest_Wife_EVER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your both still babies - u dont want to make babies just yet trust me. 3 and a half months isnt that long give it time to develop into a proper relationship and take your time with the sex thing. U dont want to rush into it and regret it.
Im guessing your still at High School. discover what you want to do when you finish - whether it be go travelling, go to University or get a career in a field you will enjoy.
You dont want babies yet
2006-11-13 17:37:49 · answer #8 · answered by lynsc_83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety you are not ready...im 18 years old and married about to have a baby next month and im still not ready...we're so not ready that we live with my parents...a baby is alooooooooooooot of money...more than you can imagine...put off having sex for a while especially that you havent been dating him for long...be smart
2006-11-13 17:06:13 · answer #9 · answered by last3member2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn girl,you're 14 and your man is 16,guys say shi* like they love you to try to get into your pants.Not that i'm saying he doesn't love you,I'm just saying wait,cause taking care of younger kids is f...ing hard.I'm 19,and 4 years ago my friend got pregnant from someone that hated her guts since first grade,he just said shi* like he loved her to get into her pants.Luckily,she lost the baby before her parents found out.So my opinion is no.
2006-11-13 17:11:44 · answer #10 · answered by ~misZ khImMi bHeibi~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you both insane? How in the hell could you remotely think you two are ready for a baby? Of course not!!! I really hope this is a joke.
2006-11-13 17:05:12 · answer #11 · answered by dawnsdad 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋