k here the story my mom dosen't like anyone who gets close to me as soon as they get close she pushes them away im the third child,second and last daughter in a family of 4 and my sister being 21 no job drop out high school gets waited on hand and foot and me a sraight a vocaly talented caring daughter gets nuthin but insults and my mom the other day watched my sister punch me in the face because i yelled at her for taking the feather pillows that i payed for from my room and she did nuthin.My mother is trying to put me in a group home because she can't except the fact that in january i will be a legal adult and will be able to leave her outta my life 4 ever how can i keep her from having me put away?
2006-11-13 16:57:14 · 19 answers · asked by kt B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First, like many other posters said, you are not a legal adult until 18, although in many states (check your laws or ask a lawyer) you can usually live on your own at 16 or 17. Second, don't worry about the group home thing. Your mother can't just put you away like that unless you are committing crimes and being a 'delinquent minor'. Aside from that, there isn't some place where you can drop off your kids and say "bye." She is your mother and she is responsible for you.
As far as your mother not doing anything about violence....that appears to be like child abuse. I highly recommend that you contact a social service agency (like child protective services "cps") or talk to a school counselor to have them help you out. From my experience with CPS, it is child abuse if your sister is physically hurting you and your mom won't do anything. Sibling on sibling abuse is actually quite common, and a CPS issue. You may be a minor, but you still have rights. You have the right to be in a safe environment, free of verbal and physical abuse. Again, talk to a counselor if the violence is an issue in the household.
2006-11-13 19:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a job making good money? How much longer do you have in school to get that good degree so you will have a good high paying job??? And I think you will have to wait another 2 years because 18 is the legal age, not 16 .... So many kids think it is so bad at home and can not wait to out on their own... Well that is a child thinking. The outside world is not a easy place to be in... Get your education a high school degree, then think about your future... Do you ever think your mother may not want you to turn out like your sister.... And just because you and your sister got into a fight and Mom did not do anything, Maybe she wants you and your sister to work things out for yourself.... Remember she is 21 and you think you will be legal in 2 months.
Respect your mother and think about how hard her life is...
2006-11-13 17:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by Mimi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who told you 16 was considered a legal adult? You are sadly mistaken!! 18 is the legal adult age but your parents are legally responsible for you until you are 21!!!
If you think you'll be an adult at 16, I'm sure you can figure out a way to keep her from putting you a way. LOL Good luck!!!! HA HA!!!!
2006-11-13 17:08:36 · answer #3 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is 16 a legal adult? At 16 you need more supervision not less. I had the same problem w/ my family being the youngest she controlled what I did but you know what? what comes around goes around. My sister is 40 yr old now and doesn't work and mom is still supporting her. Under what circumstances is she trying to put you in a group home. and if you're a legal adult in January then she can't keep you. You're not telling us something.
2006-11-13 17:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by uknowme 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You sound very mature for your age. I tell you what just ignore your family in a positive way and carry on with school. If any of the treatment is harsh report it but be discrete. Open a docket and report the kind of abuse you face whenever it occurs and use it against your mother and family. You are innocent and a child but it's a shame that your own mother hates you. I know the feeling been there down that. Have you ever played chess? checkmate her at her own game.
2006-11-13 17:32:47 · answer #5 · answered by Bridget S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, i understand this... I'm not sure the choice i made was the best or the worst... When i was 14, my mom got cancer.. And since i was going into high school, she wouldn't let me go at all... till i was 17 and when she died, she did try to control most of my life... I actually told her I was going to boarding school to get away,, and i did in grade 10-graduation.. be compassionate towards your mother, you forget that she gave birth to you, and didn't abort you... My birthmom was planning to abort me, but luckily she didn't, so I got adopted.. And i'm soooo happy for that... feel fortunatee with the things that have worked out..cheers
2006-11-13 17:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by Tom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK, here YOUR error. I know that your not looking for more criticism. just hear me out. What you have to do is be good. plain and simple. Even if you don't like it, just do what she says. It sounds to me like your mom does not trust you. Once you are good in her eyes, she will let go a little at a time. It's gunna take a while and it's gunna be hard. But, the more trust you earn, the better you have to make yourself be. Eventually, your mother will trust you with everything. Trust me i had a similar problem and now my parents are OK with me feeling ready to get engaged. So, be tough, be good, stick it out, it will all work out for the better.
2006-11-13 17:04:33 · answer #7 · answered by Daniel 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you won't find a sympathetic ear here. You're ONLY going to be 16. There is no "letting go" for parents of CHILDREN of 16 years of age. Nope, your mom is doing the right thing and one day you will fully understand it. Probably when you have an independent minded 15 year old who wants to do as he/she pleases.
Love her back my young friend. For she truly loves you. And that is almost rare these days.
2006-11-13 17:00:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
kt B : Give your mom a hug and kiss !!! ... Why? Because she is concerned for you. Why? She's aware that YOU don't know alot about what is out there in this world. There are guys who live to get into your panties; there are people, who want to get you hooked on meth or crack; She was 16 once too, remember. She raised your sisters and your sisters told her about some of the things going on . Why would you want to leave someone "out of your life 4ever" who wants the best for YOU ? There are millions of "legal adults" out on the streets of North America who wouldn't care if you live or die ... with the exception of one ... your MOM !!! Think about it !!!
2006-11-13 17:08:23 · answer #9 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not a legal adult until you are 18 unless you have been emancipated through marriage or some other legal avenue! Your mom loves you and is just doing her job as a parent the best way she sees fit! Just remember she has your best interest at heart!! She loves you!! Give her some respect!!
2006-11-13 17:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by Jimmy Pete 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋