What are the consequences of a bad relationship with your parents?

Question

I'm 14, this has been my case for 1 year, cause they were too harsh when I made mistakes and joined crowd. Today they are proud of me but my resentment never passed. I avoid them. What are the consequences
now and in the long run?

Answer 1

now: low pay/allowence, no permission for sleep overs, parties, meeting with friends
long run: regret, sorrow, no one to talk to

Answer 2

Relationships with parents are more difficult than perhaps any other relationship because we are forced to be in them at times.
Parents who are overly critical are that way for many different reasons. They may be scared for you. They may think that by cracking down and cracking down hard they can protect you. The truth is you are your own person and you will make your own decisions.
Resentment is a tough emotion. Have you told your parents how you feel? I wonder if you feel resentment because they keep bringing up your past behavior in ways that make you feel bad.
I have resentment towards my father that I don't think I will ever get over, and I'm 20. I hope that you can avoid feeling this way. The best thing I can say is that you should really try to communicate with them. If you feel like you are really not being understood or listened to, say so. Suggest counseling. Parents are only human, they make mistakes and lots of them. Try to remember this. Good Luck.

Answer 3

It's very common for a young person like you to have alot of differences with your parents. Yes, they can be very harsh at times and sometimes they overreact to things. It is important that you forgive them for that. You say that now they are proud of you, then dwell on that... The consequences are very sad if you continue to have a bad relationship with them. Your parents love you very much and that is why they acted harshly before, they just wanted to protect you from something. I'm sure you also love them in spite of the differences. Life is very short. There is not enough time to be upset or unforgiving. Sometimes it takes a big effort to forgive and forget.. but it is worth it. Please work on having a better relationship with them, you won't regret it. This is best for the short run and the long run. Good luck to you!

Answer 4

It's all in what you make of it. I was severly abused by my parents and siblings. I got away as soon as possible and got married WAY too young. I quit school & had 2 kids. My life was headed just as they had predicted. I took that resentment and turned it positive by proving them all wrong. I went back to school, got a job, worked my way up the ladder and now I'm doing great.
So, you can let them beat you down or you can decide you want better for yourself and not be a crowd follower.
Remember, even if they are harsh, it's because they really love you. They fear for you because they were your age once and they know what they faced and compare it to your actions.
They are trying to protect you from yourself.

Answer 5

A distant relationship with your parents is a sad thing. They are the people who truly love you in this world. You have to forgive them if you can, otherwise you will, at a later date regret it a LOT. You will experience problems in other relationships is the most likely result. You might not believe it now, but when you get older, if you are lucky, you will come to appreciate the wisdom of your parents. Whatever is still eating at you is doing just that. Eating you. Let it go, trust me when I tell you, time goes by fast the older you get and they won't be around forever.

Answer 6

That is up to you. I went through the same thing with my parents when I was about your age. It wasn't until I was 18 and moved out on my own that I was able to have a relationship with them. Now I am closer with my parents then I ever was. So I think when parents and their children go through rough patches it can be good in the long run. It can make your relationship stronger.

Answer 7

Forgive them,forget the past time; and move on, to your future life.God bless you.The consequences of a bad relationship with our parents are: We will have a disaster's life,we will feel guilty forever,and we will live as we have a curse in our daily life.Good question.The best thing to do is honour our parents forever.

Answer 8

I know you aren't happy with them, but there are teenagers far worse off than you when it comes to parents. There's parents out there that don't care what happens to their kids, theirs parents who kick their kids out, beat them, force them to grow up in ways you couldn't possibly imagine! Theirs also the parents that abuse drugs or alcohol and then their kids do it, too. I can go on forever...So, just think about how lucky you are that your parents love you and care about you enough to tell you not to hang out with losers. And they let you know when they are proud. Don't ever resent that no matter what they did to piss you off. You are only 14, it'll pass. Trust me.

Answer 9

they may have seemed harsh on you, in your mind at least,
what little it can comprehend at 13 years old, now your 14 does it seem just as harsh now as it did a year ago, i mmean have you learned anything because they were as wkhat you call too HARSH ON ME?? we all make mistakes hon all of us not just when were young like you are now , but all the way through life, dont mater how damn old you are, even your parents still make
mistakes now as i speek to you they could be screewing something up, that sooner or later is going to bite them in the ***,
what can they do???? learn from there **** ups thats what they do now and always, and if they seemed harsh on you forget the word harsh hon , you think they are harsh wait till your young azz gets out on your own in this great big world of ours, your gonna think harsh hon. your parents are giving you somthing very special its called real love , thats right i said real love , you dont see the fact they dont want you to end up screewing up like one or both of them have, they only want to try -n teach you the best way they know and understand how to.time for you to go to your parents and tell them just how much you do LOVE THEM BOTH SO VERY MUCH , sit down with them and try to listen to them and let them know please listen to your side too, im sorry for the lecture hon but for your sake and your parents sake i hope i helped even if only a little bit if it makes a differance in your life or helps another kid in your shoes iy was worth it GOD BLESS,
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Answer 10

Well, looks like they jaded you. Things happen, but its up to u to forgive and forget and you'll know how hard it is to raise kids these days when you have some of your own.

Forgive them and move on girl.

Answer 11

As you grow up your resentment will fade. Maturity changes a lot. Don't stress it.