(This is about my brother) Put it this way he bought her a brand new set of tires that he paid for and he also made a partical payment on a wedding dress that she stil has. A ring that he has to suck up the payments for in a span of 3 yrs. Now she keeps on harrassing him for her $800.00 snowboard. To top it off he paid for all the dates in the realtionship from day one and he feels that she should give him the money for the tires and a partical payment for the wedding dress. That way he'll give her the snow board back otherwise he should sell it and get his money back right?
2006-11-13 16:16:46 · 14 answers · asked by littlins 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She ditched him a long time ago and she's just now asking for the snowboard back. He should be charging her storages fees. The tires were Not a gift it was a loan.
2006-11-13 16:34:57 · update #1
Oh he also gave the snowboard a paint job and paid for that as well Not as a gift either the girl was going to pay him back but she's a liar.
2006-11-13 16:37:39 · update #2
Ok I have to say I honestly don't agree with that. If he bought her something as a gift (like the tires or paying for the dates) that's hers no question about it.I think the ring he's supposed to be able to get back legally and then he should sell it to recoup the money. As far as the dress I think that also falls under a gift but not sure. If he has something of hers he should give it back and chalk all this up as a lesson learned. He could get in trouble for selling her belongings. You can't do self help in these situations. Does sound like she's a gold digger though and hope he rids himself of her soon!
2006-11-13 16:28:36 · answer #1 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Assuming the "runaway bride" has the ring, she now wants this snowboard months after calling off the wedding and their relationship. Sounds to me like she's got a problem which needs fast $$$$; doubts exist she still has the ring if that is the case. And I'd be preparing myself to this troubling fact.
If I were your brother, I'd consult w/ an attorney on the feasibility of filing a Small Claims Court suit on this "runaway bride"--at least getting her to speak on record of her behavior and what she did to the ring. In some states, jilted bridegrooms have won victories in getting back their engagement/wedding rings--which can help your brother recoup his losses greatly. I hope the best for him.
As for the snowboard, she can either return the ring back or consider the snowboard sold to someone else: final offer--NO negotiations.
2006-11-13 19:28:25 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Legally he needs to sue her for the return of items or payment. If he sells her snowboard she could legally get him for theft, dont let it come to that. Tell him to itemize everything to the last cent if he can and contact a lawyer. She will have to pay for the majority of the items as she was the one who ended the relationship. It will work similar to a divorce because he purchased those things with the intent of them being together.
Tell him to talk to a lawyer before he does ANYTHING! A good lawyer will give him one free consultation.
(It will end up in small claims court probably so he wont need the lawyer past planning)
2006-11-13 16:30:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were him, I wouldn't give the snowboard back unless she paid him back for the wedding payments he made! If she won't....he should sell the snowboard and get some of his money back.
Does she have the ring still? if she does, he can ask for that back. She broke it off so he can have the ring back. He could pawn that and get some money back from that as well.
2006-11-14 00:46:47 · answer #4 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately in a relationship money exchanges hands. It's a part of being in the relationship. Your brother needs to decide if he is the bigger man. The snowboard doesn't belong to him (right?) - then he should return it. The ring was a gift to her. He can't do much about that, other than ask for it back, but it sounds like this girl is a sleaze and won't do it. I think that is part of being in a relationship. It's too bad that people can't respect others these days.
2006-11-13 16:32:07 · answer #5 · answered by me.michelle 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
An $800.00 snowboard will never compare to the hurt, pain, and anguish he is suffering for her trickery. The best possible option for him would be court. Any judge would award him the things that rightly belong to him, (i.e.; ring, payments made on her dress, and anything unjustly acquired on her behalf) She is the epitome of deceit and she will reap this in due time. My heart goes out to your brother and tell him to stand strong in this time of adversity, for it shall pass. He is being conditioned for greater things. His "real" woman awaits his arrival. Take her to court, she will never expect that! Surprise can be the best and worst element.
2006-11-14 03:04:27 · answer #6 · answered by Leo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why is he still paying for the ring? He should have the ring billed towards her, since she has it. The same with the dress. Give her the snowboard, and just forget about the tires & date money. Tell her if she persists on harassing him for money, she will see him in small claims court.
2006-11-13 17:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by speranzacampbell 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the legally sueing.... let a judge sort it out. She needs to return the ring so he can sell it and the dress should also be sold. A judge would divide up all the assets and make her pay for what she wants to keep. She really is being unfair to your brother.
2006-11-14 00:45:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
go on judge judy she'll straighten it out! she should have given the ring back so he could sell it. the wedding dress he might get half back. the tires might be hard to rule on, since he didn't persue the money sooner. she might get the snowboard back if she gives him the ring back
she sounds like a real twit - good thing he didn't marry her
2006-11-15 05:24:13 · answer #9 · answered by Jenn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sell the snowboard and get his money back and then ditch the girl. She's just using him.
2006-11-13 16:19:28 · answer #10 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋