I told a white lie. I feel bad that I did this but he drove me to it. His ex calls all the time to hang out with him. He was still on a dating web site when i confronted him, he confronted me about going in his email. I reacted and told him no.
If he wouldn't have had all this happen i wouldn't have ever been tempted to look. I did it to protect myself as this is our second time around....now i'm the villan? This is unfair. Why dosen't he see fault in this. He says it infideltiy... i feel like geeze maybe i should have cheated on him so that i can get accused of the right thing.
I'm angry but yet i miss my friend and i don't know what to do to fix this...i'm not sure if I want to work this hard at somehthing i feel is so little.
help me !!!
2006-11-13 16:16:43 · 5 answers · asked by shelbs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I miss my best friend. I mean. Do think it's ok for him to do all of these things and think he is right?
2006-11-13 16:23:48 · update #1
It's okay to miss our friends but at some point we have to let go. Unless that is you are the first one to bend the time continuum with a time machine, then you can go back in time as many times as you wish. Since that's not happening any time soon, move on.
I would say that the white lie you told doesn't compare with the lie he is living by being with you while 'hanging' out with his ex, while being on a dating site. The way I see it is if he commits to being in a relationship (with you) he should be the one trying to earn your trust.
It is because he doesn't have your trust (just like supposedly now you don't have his trust) that you have to go snoop around his e-mails. Instead he is making you feel like you are the bad guy and he is the victim. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say.
I would say it's not worth it.. like i already told you... move on.
Good luck.
2006-11-14 03:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by crazy_monkey_jr010 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust is very important in any relationship infact it is a large part of a healthy foundation. If he is odviously looking than I would consider that he no longer wants to be commited nad I would end it. See if you can get separate places. To tell any lie is not ok and if someone is doing something that is shameful on either side they need to stop. If you do it in the lite of day and can sleep at night your in the clear. Set boundries to take care of you and when you do truely what is best for yourself it helps both in he long run.
2006-11-13 16:33:02 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Inquisitive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT SOUND LIKE BOTH OF YOU HAVE TRUST ISSUES THAT
WHY YOU ARE PLAYING THESE GAMES. IF YOU REALLY
WANT THE REALTIONSHIP TO WORK TIME TO GET THINGS
OUT IN THE OPEN. BECAUSE IF THERE NO TRUST THEN
THERE NOT MUCH OF ANY THING ELSE.
2006-11-13 16:25:43 · answer #3 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Snooping in emails can get you in to trouble, but everyone does it. I bet he goes in to ur emails too!!!!
2006-11-13 16:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a white lie is as good as any lie.
bad
bad
bad
--- u know what they say, one lie needs to another and another and another ........
2006-11-13 16:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by dvl_n_dskyz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋