I work at a local Movie Theatre and I am 17 years old. I work with several males whom I also go to school with. We are always joking around having a good time, but a lot of times they will constantly tease me. I am known as the good, Christian girl that doesn't drink/smoke etc. Well, anyways they are always teasing me, coming up and grabbing my sides or poking my sides/back, grabbing my shoulders, sexual innuendos etc. I know they are guys and it is almost expected by why are they constantly teasing me? It's always when they are together too, because when it is just us they joke around with me but not as much. One of the guys told another guy at work that he thought I was "hot and beautiful" which of course I don't believe, yet he goes out with another girl who is willing to go further than I, but they aren't together anymore. The guy that said this also comes up and hugs me at work. Is this behavior inappropriate at work and how should I take this teasing?
2006-11-13 16:14:29 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I always thought if a guy liked a girl, he would try to be as sweet as possible...am I wrong??
2006-11-13 16:14:52 · update #1
Sounds like these guys are in a race to get into your pants...my money is on the guy who said you were hot and beautiful....
2006-11-13 16:17:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't forget that teenage males are still very inexperienced, even if they have done some "stuff". Usually what it comes down to is they're attracted to a girl, but they're not sure how to express that feeling... on top of that they have these hormones raging in the body, so they act out in some pretty strange ways. I remember in the first grade I was attracted to a girl, so I chased her around the classroom with glue on my fingers... as guys become teenagers we're really not that much more sophisticated. I would bet the one guy who thought you are hot and beautiful really is attracted to you, but isn't sure how to express it so he teases you and pokes you and makes suggestive comments. These days guys tend not to let a girl know he likes her by being sweet and kind, because usually that's a one way ticket to "the friend zone". If you actually do like the guy, maybe you can steer him away from acting all goofy and let him know in your own way that you're more responsive to a "sweet" guy. Good luck.
2006-11-13 16:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by Zloar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys have no clue? They don't know any other way than to pick on a girl to flirt. If it bothers you too much tell them. Or think of a smart-a** comment for them they might be shocked. There is nothing wrong w/being a "good girl" I was in school. All I remember was all my girl friends telling stories about "where" they did and "who "they did and" how" many ect.. I was stunned. And now I'm glad alllll these yrs later I can say, I was a girl once described as "A girl u take out to talk about the weather" which was fine w/me. At least now when my kids come home and say my friends mom is, so and so, i say yea! I remember her from school (and think to myself--OH! yea! I remember her!!) are you sure these guys aren't being crude to see maybe which one can get should I say....more from you? That sounds terrible but not beyond belief. Be careful. And don't take so much crap! give it right back!
2006-11-13 16:24:37 · answer #3 · answered by same girl/new name :) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quickly, questions contain their answers.
It is important you become aware of this. You will have many questions in your life. Knowing the answers is not as important as knowing how to find them.
You are a 17 year old girl and guys are stupid. You show them who they are. You also show them who they are not.
They are afraid of both. What can they do? They hide in any way they can. These things will take care of themselves. Beyond that, not much we can say.
The important thing to realize is that you already have your answers. It is the questions that confuse you to no end..
All we can really do is remove your questions.
So question this no more... One of the guys did tell another guy that you are hot and beautiful. You know it too, but you are afraid as well. Beautiful is it not?
Pay close attention, your time is almost upon you. Within the eyes of one of these young men you will find a reflection that can show you the real answer.
It is said that the eyes are the window to the soul. More specific, the eyes of the beloved are the window to our own soul.
Forgive me for the lame answer. It would take hours. I wish you the best of everything.
2006-11-13 18:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by Buddha Bob 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Roughhousing and teasing is a way that some men show interest in a women, the guy just might not know how to really approach you. This behavior at work though is inappropriate, you should speak with the guys on a one on one basis and tell them you do not like them acting like that, and if that does not help then speak with your manager
2006-11-13 16:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by stephan b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys hit on girls in different ways and this is definitely one of them... Maybe the guy is teasing you because he thinks if he just asks you out he will get rejected because you are a a "christian girl" as you put it. and the reason they do it more when they are together is because guys will do anything for attention!!!
2006-11-13 16:20:58 · answer #6 · answered by Jack Daniels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only it is inappropriate, it is also wrong and unlawful. Stop them right away by telling them IT IS WRONG FOR THEM TO BEHAVE LIKE THAT and TELL THEM THAT YOU WANT THEM TO STOP NOW!!!, then go tell your supervisor/manager about the problem. That way you will have some records about the incidents. If your boss does not do anything anything after you reported to him/her, then you should start gather all evidences and sue the employer for condoning sexual harassment among workers
2006-11-13 16:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They hope that by teasing you, you will start to think you're silly for not going as far as the other girls. This is the guys way of letting you know he would date you in a heartbeat if you would let him. Tease back, or tell him to back off. Your choice.
2006-11-13 16:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by neff_crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this as described is Sexual Harrassment. I would say something to them to stop touching you and notify your boss. so if it keeps happening you could have more legal options to stop them. If you are hot and beautiful, which as you describe the behavior, You probably are, then someone at somepoint will ask you nicely for a date. If someone doesn't when you turn 18 let me know. i'll show you how a real man treats a lady!!! with RESPECT.
2006-11-13 16:22:31 · answer #9 · answered by kozydawg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should ask them politely why they are doing this or that? and tell them you don't like the way they are treating you and they should stop it.. sometimes being frank is'nt such a bad thing to do.. because you also said that you too are always joking around w/ them, so they might think that it's ok w/ you if they do this.. so, if you really don't like what they are doing just like what u said, then let them know what their limitaions are, don't let it get out of hand before it's too late.. or if it is already too late, find somebody that has a higher authorithy to tell them to stop.. just let them know that u really mean it, if they don't listen don't mingle w/ them anymore.. ^_^ "if problems persist consult your doctor" joke..
2006-11-13 16:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by zded 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋